"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Insecurity in Men ( male friendships)

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It is very difficult to find a person that is comfortable in their own skin. A lot of men are so inherently insecure so that they cant have genuine friendships. So lets give women a break. Finding a man ( or woman) that is well adjusted is difficult.

I am middle aged and 50% of my small friend group are great. Ive known these guys since I was in my early 20s. Many are richer than me, cooler than me, have families etc but I genuinely love them. They inspire me and I would do anything for them.

The other 50% are insecure and are snakes in the grass.

I really don't have much to be envious about but some people still find a way to secretly envy you. The envy leaks out in weird ways. You can tell when someone is not really your friend. Its a palpable ackwardness in the interactions.

I understand why women don't respect men. Its because we are not much better than women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You can spot the vibe a mile away and the way to diffuse it is to be humble and talk stories about an unfortunate event happening to you and a general discontentment about life. Just vibe with them and relate according to their situation.
 
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