"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I been focusing so much on trying to get girls that when I finaly got this chick into me I realized how inexperienced Iam beyond the point of getting the girl. I've hang out with this girl about every weekend for a month but only been alone with her twice which both chances i had to kiss her... Iam so pissed of at myself, I dont remember the last time I kissed a girl , its pretty sad. I keep having this thing in the back of my head .. like wats she gonna think.. wat is she says "wat are u doing"... ah **** iam so insecure.. I mean i have done so much kino wit her, we are so comfortable around each other, like last weekend we were laying basicly in each others arms watching a movie with her leg rubbing up against my balls... yet I cant find it inside me to kiss this girl...
Iam seeing her this friday and iam goin for it, any tips on when its best to do it? i really dont want her to think i don like her because i havent kissed her yet.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lol..

i guess i was in your same place a while ago,but not as bad


once you get by the first kiss,everything else is easy..but its not that hard. i garantee shes been thinking "WTF WHY HASNT HE KISSED ME YET!!!" better hurry up and do it before she starts to think youre gay.
 

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I agree, " why hasnt he kissed me yet!?" is problably something going through her head after a month of you two seeing each other.

Some girls seem to be easier than others to get the first kiss with. The girl I am going out with now practically did it all for me the first kiss - she started the action of bringing her face in closer to mine.

My first girlfriend though, it was all me. It isnt hard, just do it.
 

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hey man its cool, i know what your looking for right now so ill give it to you.



First get in a situation where your very close to her already, such as sitting right next to each other on a couch. If you are able to in a non awkward manner take her hand and give her a hand massage or something. Preferably do this in a dimly lit room btw.

Look right into her eyes man, inside your head count 1, 2, 3. If she doesnt look away in that time frame, then she definitely wants to be kissed right there. Then put your arm around the back of her neck and move in man. If you can concentrate on it properly, like stroke her hair while youre kissing her.

You dont have to make ita long kiss for the first kiss man, its more important that you actually get the kiss in. Dont slobber, and let her lead it, if her lits part man, do the same, if she uses tongue, do the same. Very controlled, very light, do teasing, lip biting etc if you keep it going.


hope i helped man, and make sure you set the mood.
 

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Just a silly question, but when you put your arm around behind her neck do you slide your hand under her arm and then the neck or just simply above the shoulder and hand around the neck?

I think it seems awkward for the latter :confused: Bare with my inexperienced attitude.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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To quote a good movie (40 Days and 40 Nights) - "You can pass off two dates without a kiss as old fashioned, go three and you're a homo."

Just kiddin man :)

The hardest part is getting to the top of the hill, wjhen you finally get there, its all downhill. Just remember that, on the grande scheme of things, kissing a girl isn't a life-changing event. So dont psyche yourself out over it, just do it.
 

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dont put ur arm under her arm and then around her neck dude, what are you trying to do man, kung fu?
 

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Coming from someone who is always trying to improve their game...

Do you want to kiss the entire mouth? upper, lower, both? or alternate?
 

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don't worry about it, its a normal thing for somebody to be nervous the first time they do anything. It'll come with time. A tip i got was pretty simple:

You know that movie top gun? When you say to yourself go get the digits, or ask her on a date, or kiss her, and you won't do it, say to yourself, "Engage maverick, engage"

Never failed me, even though it's stupid.
 

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"You can pass off two dates without a kiss as old fashioned, go three and you're a homo."


this makes alot of sense to me, its going in my personal archive :p itll be something i stick with.


also if you get scared just ask her, dis gurl im seeing now tells me that her ex use to ask her LOL and not to kiss either but to bite her on the neck

i ofcourse busted her on him being a vampire but w/e
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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