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Insecure over a dream?!

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happyman2012

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Girlfriend of nearly two years started getting insecure and jealous today all because I told her I had a dream about her and another girl getting it on. It wasnt any girl in particular, but she said ew, called me disrespectfull and says if i want that go be single e.t.c. Totally flipped out.

I just told her to see it for what it is...a dream/fantasy and she needs to get a hold of herself.

Handled correctly?

I thinK I might end it with her because she is very insecure/uptight and jealous and tbh its making my relationship with her turn sour. She says she knows shes being stupid but still dosent seem to change.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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on another note, i'm somewhat a psychology guy, so we take dreams to be "the royal road to the unconscious" i think freud say that. anyway...

your dream/fantasy could be displaying something that you would like to happen. to see your girlfriend get it on with another chick! nothing wrong with that in my opinion. a lot of guys have this fantasy.

your girlfriend feels differently however.
 
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I wouldnt be impressed if my girlfriend insinuated that she would like me to get it on with one of my best mates. It also means she fancies and dreams about my mate. All kinds of discussion you dont want to be having.

Your dream could be BS just to open the discussion and get a feeler.
 
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I don't see anything wrong. It was an unusual dream which nobody else would know unless he shared it. You had no choice but to share a cool dream like that.

It was just a freakin dream!

I understand why she would feel a little insecure I guess... but to lash out at you was too much.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Huge red flag, imo. Flipping out over a dream is part of the unofficial BPD playbook, so it's something I'm quite leery of. It's one thing to explore your dream but expressing extreme emotions from a dream tends to signal something deeper going on ...
 
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