Insecure gf

[Lion]

Hey, after reading the following useful post I decided to post my thoughts.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=131859&highlight=previous+partner

My gf is amazing, talented, cute and very caring. She's always seemed to struggle with her confidence and has recently brought up the subject of past partners- again! She has told me about her's before - such and such was a jerk, I can count them on one hand blah blah blah, I just acted indifferent and when she asked me about mine, I avoid telling her

She says she is open and honest, with nothing to hide - I trust her but she has an issue with her lack of experience. She says she worries about who I have been with and how I might compare her. She also says that in return I am closed up about my past. Uhuh.

This girl is brilliant for me (LTR 2-3 yrs) though her confidence issue resurfaces every few months and I don't find it attractive. She seeks reassurance and I have told her she is a great person and I care about her, so much it dissapoints me when I see her in that state.

I feel like our personalities have developed positively together over the last few yearsa (we are 24) but sometimes I feel like my confidence is suited to a more confident (and if I was to be completely shallow, maybe more attractive) girl.

What would you do next?

 

[KontrollerX]

Well if she's really not doing it for you as much as you think you deserve if I were you I'd begin the hunt for some new talent and branch swing on over to the best of the new lineup once I'd judged the new branch was secure.

As for if you want to stay with your current girl?

Continue evading, dodging and avoiding your past as it will always keep you in the power position over her and keep her wondering if she'll ever measure up to your past loves.

Women love that drama sh!t so don't feel bad that she whines about it just find some pleasant sounding excuse to not address her questions about your past directly and maybe your excuse can even be a simple re-assurance of how right she is for you now.

 

[Lion]

Well if she's really not doing it for you as much as you think you deserve if I were you I'd begin the hunt for some new talent and branch swing on over to the best of the new lineup once I'd judged the new branch was secure.

Haha how would/ could you do this? My take is there's no way I could even begin to branch unless I end it first, plus her IL would explode

As for if you want to stay with your current girl?

Continue evading, dodging and avoiding your past as it will always keep you in the power position over her and keep her wondering if she'll ever measure up to your past loves.

Women love that drama sh!t so don't feel bad that she whines about it just find some pleasant sounding excuse to not address her questions about your past directly and maybe your excuse can even be a simple re-assurance of how right she is for you now.

I like it, man this forum is the sh!t!