Insecure alpha?

[tryst type]

When a guy has to make fun of other guys in the presence of girls or is that also being playful?

 

[Bonafide]

Beta

 

[Bussey]

It depends on the situation. If he's making fun of an Alpha who's trying to steal the girls he's with, then he's trying to defend what's his.

If he's making fun of random guys because of no real reason, just for the giggle the girls may give - That's a guy who doesn't get it, has nothing of value to talk about and is insecure.

 

[tryst type]

What if this guy who's so inclined to bash others to come off so superior gets offended when you make a remark back and demands an apology?

Happened to me and I was like give me a break, do I ever cry about it when you incessently make put downs? Worse yet, gf thinks I'm being too egotistical by not apologizing.

Suggestions?

 

[tryst type]

What if this guy who's so inclined to bash others to come off so superior gets offended when you make a remark back and demands an apology?

Happened to me and I was like give me a break, do I ever cry about it when you incessently make put downs? Worse yet, gf thinks I'm being too egotistical by not apologizing.

Suggestions?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What if this guy who's so inclined to bash others to come off so superior gets offended when you make a remark back and demands an apology?

Happened to me and I was like give me a break, do I ever cry about it when you incessently make put downs? Worse yet, gf thinks I'm being too egotistical by not apologizing.

Suggestions?

Let the Alpha and the wannabe-alphas butt heads with each other. While they're preoccupied with their battle of male superiority sarge any nearby women out from under them. It's usually very easy since most women don't enjoy Three Stooges-like gameplay.

 

[Bussey]

What if this guy who's so inclined to bash others to come off so superior gets offended when you make a remark back and demands an apology?

Happened to me and I was like give me a break, do I ever cry about it when you incessently make put downs? Worse yet, gf thinks I'm being too egotistical by not apologizing.

Suggestions?

'Awwww muffin did I hurt your feelings?'

Sidenote: If this guys a tool why are you hanging out with him?

 

[reset]

This is the type of stuff that makes you aware that you have an ego and how it affects you. Guys who are not dating the chick and who insult other guys, in front of her, are insecure, extremely needy, and are most likely reacting to some sort of alpha vibes YOU are sending out. It's like saying "damn this guys better than me! I'm gonna insult him in front of you now pretty girl! Now stop paying attention to him, but to me instead!"

The chick sees it for what it is, but the "alpha" obviously feels he needs to get into that warrior defender mode. Which means, he's acknowledged competition from the other guy, and the c0ckblockers tactic actually worked, except in this case, both guys end up losing status.

When some hater man in name only guy does this to you, take it as a compliment, or at the least, a sign that you're sending out strong vibes. Take it in stride. The worst thing you can do is let someone with poor self-esteem actually affect your own.

 

[tryst type]

What's the best strategy? Laugh it off, agree, laugh, pay attention elsewhere or ignore?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What's the best strategy? Laugh it off, agree, laugh, pay attention elsewhere or ignore?

I just don't get it. There are women around, why are you focused on the guys?

 

[tryst type]

Because these guys or in this case "guy" is a friend and tends to always do this.

What's best course of action when around guys like this? Seems ignoring could make them think they hurt your feelings and play off that to feed their stupid habit.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Nice friend. I'm with Bussey, why are you hanging around with him? Whatever control he has over you is effecting you negatively and not just with your game. Reset is probably onto something about this effecting your self esteem.

 

[reset]

I just don't get it. There are women around, why are you focused on the guys?

Lol. I think that's what happens when you finally don't care about competition from other guys. You don't see it, so you don't think about it, obviously.

I had to go through a lot of this stuff, a guy being jealous, trying to put me down, and all because I got the attention he wasn't. At first it hurt that he would do that to me, and I started worrying he was going to "win the chick" by doing it, but now I realize he was just jealous. But at first it made ME insecure. Lots of introspection from it. Now just accept, that guys will hate on you because you are the man. Comes with the territory.

And as long as you don't react, the chick will see it for what it is too. And if you don't react, she'll see you for what you are, a strong man who is not phased by PETTY BS.

Just don't ever do this to another man. It ain't right, and you don't need to rely on kid games.

 

[tryst type]

So if I'm not supposed to react. Why does my gf think I'm egotistical for not apologizing to him? I said one small come back remark which I threw out in good humor and now the antagonist thinks I'm at fault where I never care to let his words affect me.

 

[reset]

What would you do if someone with a mental handicap was shouting obscenities at you? Or a small child screaming "I hate you!"--what's your reaction?

 

[tryst type]

No reaction. Maybe a wave and friendly smile ha.

So what's with my girl calling me egotistical and gettin upset?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So if I'm not supposed to react. Why does my gf think I'm egotistical for not apologizing to him? I said one small come back remark which I threw out in good humor and now the antagonist thinks I'm at fault where I never care to let his words affect me.

Small come back huh? So why did your girl back him up instead of you? What exactly did you say to him?

 

[tryst type]

I said "so what else is new mr. Insult?" And he started gettin defensive claiming he's joking blah blah and I should apologize.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

And why was your girl bent out of shape?

 

[tryst type]

She felt I should apology since it got him all worked up when everyone knew he was just joking entire time. My defense was no way I never cry when he "jokes" about me and ask for an apology he can handle what I said. That's what made her call me egotistical.