insecure about my looks

[unreal-guy]

i am 20 years old asian male, i weight at 155lbs, 6'0 tall, on the tall skinny side, but i am toned and my **** size is 6.2" inches long, 1.8" inches wide

the problem with my looks is that it's oily and have scars of old acnes, i have used many products and it makes my face look worse. my hair is spiked, as told by many cute hairstylist suggested: i look tall & skinny so spiked hair fits me

anyways i noticed only a slightly range of girls interested in me

mainly the younger ones (18~25's), i mean i can get # from young girls all the time
when i talk to the older ones (25+), they seem to want to "settle down" aka looking for a man who has nice house and car
maybe it's because i pefer women who are mature enough (on the inside lol)

 

[Delta]

try clinique soap for skin... i used to have similar problems and that cleared it up LIKE CRAZY. seriously, run to mall and get some from the makeup counter (they have a men's version but for me, the extra strength women's bar works a bit better).

also, see a dermatologist... this is one of those things that can get a LOT better if you seek some professional help.

as for your range of girls who you can get numbers from - you DON'T seem to have a problem!
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finally, don't be insecure about your looks. INSECURITY KILLS. if you're short, it wouldn't hurt you as much as being INSECURE ABOUT BEING SHORT.

understand that no matter what problems you have, insecurity is ANOTHER PROBLEM that amplifies the negative aspects of all your flaws.

the thing you should do is LEARN TO ACCEPT IT COMPLETELY if you cannot do anything about it. or CHANGE IT if you can and make the insecurity disappear by doing something aobut it. no insecurity - only change or accept.

and ALL LOOKS can be made to look pretty unique and cool in a way if you dress and groom properly. i can think of lots of examples of guys that are pretty darn ugly if you get right down to it but because of their style, they become not so much ugly as really fascinating to look at.

you have spiked hair - make sure other people think it looks good on you too and you're not doing it by default. hairstyle is one of those things that a lot of guys NEVER experiment with... but it can make a tremendous difference in the way you look and you may not like it as much as you think. try asking a stylist what they think and try out a few styles.

an asian at 6' is great. height is an advantage. so is muscle. consider weight lifiting. it is not a myth - chicks dig a good body as much as guys do. you've got a good frame to start out with, maximize your advantage.

delta

p.s. older women NATURALLY are looking for something a bit more stable - especially asian women for whom the ticking clock is like a deafening roar in their heads.

 

[Tomatoes]

see a dermatologist... this is one of those things that can get a LOT better if you seek some professional help.

Agreed......Any complextion problem can be solved....

 

[blinkwatt]

understand that no matter what problems you have, insecurity is ANOTHER PROBLEM that amplifies the negative aspects of all your flaws.

the thing you should do is LEARN TO ACCEPT IT COMPLETELY if you cannot do anything about it. or CHANGE IT if you can and make the insecurity disappear by doing something aobut it. no insecurity - only change or accept.

Bingo!
I have a big nose,I dont ever point it out,talk about it or ever let it bother me. If someone makes a comments(everyonce and awhile some btich will) I am lucky enough to think of someone witty, "yeah its big so what,it takes 1 million of my noses to equal your gut". Just dont let comments or negative thoughts get to you.

Think about it,PLENTY OF PEOPLE HAVE FLAWS. Owen Wilson(Messed Up Nose),Tom Cruise(Slighy Big Nose),Camerion Diaz(Her acne shows up in HD pretty bad),Drew Carey(Big fellow) and Ray Ramono(Big Nose). Do you think that if they were insecure about their flaws that they would be famous today?NO. They would fear the camera,the mere thought that thousands if not millions are watching them and their flaws.

Point being,GET OVER IT. If anyone ask just say it adds character.

 

[d9930380]

I know of this dude who was 5 foot 5 inch and NOT good-looking who was going out with a gorgeous girl who looked like a young Jenna Jamesone (except hotter). She said the reason why she loved him was because he didn't have any insecurity.

Women don't judge quite as critically on looks the same as men so we can't apply our thinking to them.

 

[unreal-guy]

so it's all about confidence eh

well i must be ****y enough to have confidence but yet i am not ****y

 

[grr]

You're an introvert! There is a similar discussion going on in the AE forums, here.

So you can either try to become an extrovert & get women anywhere with very short notice, build-up or join a social circle of introverts and get women there on a regular basis, or be a lone wolf and "trust in fate" and get women hardly ever. Lone wolf is a bit extreme but if you're looking for the type of girl to settle down with a lone wolf you gotta play the part : )

I know a lot of a lone wolf who is a tech guy at a drama club. Seems to work for him, if you like those types of girls.

They'll all work, some take longer than others. In the case of the extrovert vs introvert /w a social circle: Return on investment is usually much different, too.