Input right now fellas!

[tmac15]

Fellas need help right now. Alright I've been dating this girl, on 4 dates (I really like her). Made out with her twice, I have initiated all the dates (phone calls, text, etc.) and recently this past Sunday she asked me directly what I wanted. I told her I thought she was cute and that I wouldn't mind continued dating. I asked her what she wanted and she said she didn't know.
So I decided to stop pursing and to end all conversation with her text, phone calls, etc. Now I just got a text from her, she asked wanna go watch live bands tonight? I don't want to be at her beck and call and I want her to invest more, what do I do?

1. Say no, i've already made plans
2. Say yes ( I really want to say yes)
3. I dunno (input please)????

 

[Al Moh.]

You don't really have plans, do you? You've been dating for a while already, you've played your cards right?

No need to overcomplicate this one, say yes, go out and have fun.

 

[2Pac_Makaveli]

Mos Def Number 1. I'll let one of the other fellow DJ's explain exactly why as I do not have the time.

Number 1 Number 1 Number 1 Number 1

 

[MisterMcGee]

Don't say number 1. She's in a vulnerable position now that she brought up what you guys are as a relationship. Honestly, girls would see a 'no' as "he wants me just for sex" or "he's afraid to commit" or "he doesn't like me" and so forth. It's gonna be this big negative thing that she'll prob analyze with her friends.

Just mix up the plans a bit. Take her offer and make it something of your own. Tell her to come to your place first. Tell her its only gonna be you and her. Maybe change venue. Who knows.
Point is, she wants to go out with you tonight. She's initiating. Don't inflate your ego and play the "What would a DJ do?" game with her. Heck, take her to your (or her) place after and bang. She wants you, and she's more sure of it cause she doesn't want to lose you after the little 'talk' you had.

 

[tmac15]

More input guys so I can analyze (Please). My gut says don't go my heart say yes go.

 

[CaptainJ]

Stop overthinking and just go out with her.

She has decided that you are not just going to use her for sex and play her and is willing to continue dating. So why not.

Don't listen to people who say Move on, forget about her or ignore her. They apply to situations when the girl seems disinterested, but not in a one where a girl is genuinely interested.

 

[cw92]

she seems interested..i dont know why you shouldnt, what harm can come of it?

IMO she is definately showing interest and you should go, what do you have to lose?

Do what you truly want to do, or you'll just end up thinking about "what could have happened"

Number 2.

 

[Igetit!]

Mos Def Number 1. I'll let one of the other fellow DJ's explain exactly why as I do not have the time.

Number 1 Number 1 Number 1 Number 1

Oh,I see. So you want him to lie. Oh yeah,great advice. Lying always makes things better.

I agree with Al Moh. Go ahead and go see the bands. Just don't be over eager and excited about it. This thing about her asking you a DIRECT question about what you want....that's interesting. Seems like a test to me.
I'm curious to know how she responded to you after you answered this.
Did she draw closer to you after this,or did she seem to kind of ease back away from you and the relationship? I don't know,but my guess would probably be the latter. I say that because you said that when you asked her the same question,she saiid she didn't know. She wouldn't just pull this question out of the air. Something from the moment you two met,throughout all your interactions,up until this discussion took place,something about you caused her to bring this subject up. And don't ask me what it was,because I don't know,I wasn't there.

I think you did the right thing by pulling back a bit. It caused her to be a bit more invested in you. Just continue doing this from time to time,and she'll become more emotionally attached to you without even realizing it.

 

[WC2]

Mos Def Number 1. I'll let one of the other fellow DJ's explain exactly why as I do not have the time.

Number 1 Number 1 Number 1 Number 1

Oh yes, MOS DEF NUMBA 1 NUCCA.. NOT.

Look if you want to be one of those dudes who cancels on dates out of spite, so be it. All it really shows is your insecurity.

Now if you want to cancel on this date because you've got another hot broad lined up, then by all means do it.

Go with Igetit's advice, as he usually gets IT. Don't ask for commitment. Don't smother this chick next time you're with her. Lastly, when she starts showing high IL, go in for the kill. Take her back, do the dirty.

This awkwardness about 'what you are' is coming because there's yet to have been sex (I'm assuming) and she's wondering what the hell you want.

Again, the holy grail of mistakes is telling a chick you want to date her or continue dating her. That's for her to say, and for you to think about.

 

[Splendidostring]

Hey

woah, she's asking you out to see live bands?? That's great! Perfect opportunity for kino and LOTS of fun with her (I just hope the bands don't suck).

 

[tmac15]

Last ?. Yes, but don't offer to pick her up right? Just meet there?

 

[cw92]

Last ?. Yes, but don't offer to pick her up right? Just meet there?

it seems like your overanalyzing this a bit to much, who cares if you pick her up, or meet her there? IMO its not that big of a deal.