input required - having first date at -your- place vs action date.

[strong like bull]

ill try to keep this brief and to the point.

if a girl shows sky-high IL at the start, do you -really- need to go on an a couple dates before bringing her home? i could see the use of an action date to get things exciting - for a girl whom you asked for a number at a bookstore. it seems that usually 2-3 dates go by before its decided the time is ready to get intimate - based on how fast youve raised her IL.

but like i said, if her IL is ALREADY through the roof... why not save some steps, right?

what happened, was a girl came into my restaurant - im a server. after several hours (she was there for karaoke) of what was originally unintentional c&f, i could tell things were on the right track. she was giving me golden eye contact. -she- made the effort to establish kino with -me-. laughed at my c&f lines while i served other customers... all the while, i played the c&f role to a T by showing her it was no big deal. i didnt really care either way - just enjoyed the ego stroking.

long story short: as she was getting ready to leave, she came up and slipped a folded piece of paper into my back pocket - not hesitating to touch my ass in the process =). it read

"(name) - (number) Call me! =)"

gave me her number, enthusiastically, without me asking for it.

since ive begun dating 6-7 months ago, this has happened three times. rather than do cold-pickups on the street, i let things flow. i keep myself busy with making money, weightlifting, basketball, etc. eventually, while im working or doing something that i enjoy, i seemingly randomly hit it off with a girl. the c&f flows perfectly. to you pook followers, im sure you understand how it works.

all three times, theyve enthusiastically given me their number without me asking. all three times, ive had the girl come back to my place for a couple drinks, to watch a movie, etc. all three times, the invitation to "hang out" rather than "go out" has lead to AT LEAST a heated makeout section. these girls werent sluts, either. some more... easygoing... than others, but it was their high IL that made it happen.

now for a second or third date, i take them out. something exciting like ice skating or hiking. or at least a movie. but the question remains - if it ain't broke, dont fix it? so far im 3 for 3 in having the girl over for the first date.

btw - im 19, shes about 18. shes a 6'1" german exchange student, dark hair, fair skin, big natural breasts and a luscious ass. oh, and she can sing beautifully.

what do -you- think?

 

[strong like bull]

15 views... if you can read, you can reply =) im going to give her a call tomorrow and i could use the extra input.

thanks in advance.

 

[iqqi]

if you don't care, than its up to you. call her, you don't give a sh!t either way, right?

 

[strong like bull]

shed be a lot of fun and seems like a sweet girl. i -would- take a chance with her. but the advice i need is more about having first dates at your place, which goes against the majority of what others say. its worked for me in the past and i wondering if it was a fluke or if others have had the same happen to them.

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[Gangster Of Love]

Hey guy,

I didn't even need to finish reading the entire post to see that this is one that you just invite to your place and let the evening unfold. If she has that high an interest, she will just want to spend time with you.

Do plan something to do at home, like a meal, movie, etc. and let thing move smoothly. Chicks, no matter how much they are into you, always need to rationalize things, so get her to your place and let it happen.

The times that I've bagged one the first time at my place, have been when we they come in, get relaxed, feel at home; all the resistance has practically been eliminated.

Good job!

 

[strong like bull]

thanks, g. i think you hit it right on the mark.

 

[SamePendo]

On the other side, if your house is something like MJ's Neverland, well, you might as well have a date at your house with noooo problems.

Although, no, forget about it, her freaky mom will start extorting you for money and then sue your ass.

 

[strong like bull]

hah. i said shes 18 though, not 8. =)

 

[jakethasnake]

6'1", wow.

 

[strong like bull]

crazy, isnt it?

i stand 6'4" and with the high shoes she was wearing... talking face to face, we were practically eye to eye.

 

[JoeyNation]

she's only 18, she could care less what you 2 do. enjoy it while you can. as women get older the way they act changes. in high school and college i almost never went on dates. i'd invite a girl to hang out by my place, watch a movie or something. she'd come over, we'd talk a bit, joke around, pop in a movie, and, most of the time, within 30 minutes it was on like a porn. if she was easy i was getting laid, bigtime. if she was more reserved maybe a bj, at the worst making out. then the next time it would be on for sure, if i felt like spending time with her again. enjoy that sh1t while you can dude. once girls get fake id's and start getting more experienced, they wont just come by to hang out. a date must happen. i'm really not sure why. i guess they have a lot more experience to compare you to or watched a lot of sex in the city or increased sophistication, i'm not sure. just make sure the movie sets the right mood though, thats crucial. never threw in a movie like rambo, but i would guess that wouldnt help the cause.

i'm 24 now, trying to transition to the 20 something level of women and learning as i go. hopefully i'll be able to reach a very accomplished level. i just found these boards while at work and it seems like they could provide me with some tips. we'll see. but sometimes i think back to simpler times like the age you're at now. so the best advice i can give is enjoy it, and if it aint broke, dont fix it. when it breaks then work on it.

one last thing. whenever girls are that into you, like the situation you described, you pretty much can do no wrong, especially if you have that "girls are replaceable attitude" and she senses it. every girl that has come up to me without me needing to approach her, except for 1 instance, has been down to do whatever either the 1st or 2nd time we hung out. a girl is pretty motivated when she approaches first. and for what its worth i dont think the girls that do are any type of relationship material, only for the moment material. just my experiences though.