Inner Game

[MICKD27]

When you want to build up your Inner Game

First off I think you need to Look your best as much as possiable , that doesn't mean you take out your favorite shirt , rather just try to keep the hair cut fresh, try to stay in reasonable shape, always appear clean and neat when you leave the house.

Ok now thats settled the first thing you need to do is not focus on any insecurites you may have about your looks. Maybe you think you have bad hair, maybe you think you got a bad nose, or bad teeth, or you got a birth mark on your cheek like Drew Brees. Rather then focus on the negatives try to focus on the positives and we all got them. For instance maybe you got a nice build, or nice eyes, or your tall and lean, or maybe you just know your the sickest athlete in the place, whatever that is good focus in on this and block out the negatives.

Now keen in more of your personality traits that you offer for instance.....I m a good catch for any woman because Im very intelligent and well read, I am in great shape and I am very funny and amusing . Maybe its you think your family upbringing gives you a certain edge, maybe its your faith in God, maybe its the amount of friends you have, maybe its your able to solve problems and remain calm and coool under stress. Your outgoing and friendly, your kind to people, but your also firm.

Then you move on to achievements, ...Maybe your a marine, maybe you fought in a war your proud of, maybe you finished High school when the odds were stacked against you, you have a college degree, you lost alot of weight , you helped out a friend once when they really needed it. Or maybe its you moved up in your job position, or you became the leader of the company or sports captain. Maybe its you had enough balls to go up to a hot chick you saw.

Then put it all together....what you are....

 

[Charm]

Great post for a newcomer MICK! Its great to see someone offering positive attitude and I hope you keep it up.

Inner game is not simply changing the way we think however, it is changing the way we act and becoming an observer of our actions and how others respond to them so that we can correctly adjust to meet new and changing circumstances.

Keep sharing

 

[MICKD27]

Thanks for sharing that man....

 

[realsmoothie]

I like this post because it highlights a problem that many of us have: we focus on our weak areas while ignoring our strengths.

I know that I myself, when evaluating my chances with a particular girl, start from the middle (i.e. assume I'm average) and adjust DOWN by applying my negative characteristics. I.E. "hmm... she's pretty cute... I don't think I'm good-looking enough for her" or "she seems to be a bit of a gold-digger, I probably don't have enough money".

HOWEVER... if you think the other way around... maybe it might work better. Focus on your GOOD aspects... i.e. you see a girl that's a little "alternative" and you could point out to yourself that you know something about independant film and maybe that could be a selling point.

After all... when YOU are evaluating another girl to see if she's good enough for you... do you focus on her bad points? I don't. I see some nice boobs, or a great smile, or a sarcastic sense of humour, I'm all about that. I can handle a skeleton in the closet.

Now that I think about it... you can see this when girls talk about guys they're seeing... they'll mention that maybe their boyfriend isn't that cute but "he's SO funny" or "he's such a good kisser" and that good trait seperates you from the chaff.

 

[MICKD27]

GOOD points man.

Its alot about always staying in the positive confident mentality and attitude. Out of this flows actions that create good reactions .