"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sherineo

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hey fellas,

I'm a guy who's reached the stage where I can attract any girl (yes I mean A N Y girl...) by talking to her...how? I don't know how to put into words...but I definitely know it at an instinctual level...

I have been working on my inner game for a long time which started after I came across this site for the first time.

By instinct I mean that nowadays there are so many instances where I end up saying things (in a certain fashion offcourse) that my oldself just can't believe that I said those things....MAGIC

My problem right now is that the moment I have induced attraction in my target (that means they have a huge crush on me), either...

- I lose interest. Poof Gone...the whole chemistry disappears...
- If after losing interest I still try to persue I FAIL...always (since I'm not acting out of my instinct...)

I have a few theories around this problem of mine that why does it happen (kind of a self diagnosis)...which I'll post here..but before that I need to get your views on this...

You can picture me as one of those slightly short guys who are really cool n good lookin...(I'm not trying to brag but I have been one of the biggest AFC just a few years back...)
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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Hey.... you got mine former problem ..........

Ok here is how I got over it ........... I embraced mindless sex with multiple hot woman as being normal .......

if you want a more deeper and detailed answer .... answer this thread ...

Than I might talk.....
 

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People always want what they can't have.
As you said you can attract any girl, perhaps you feel since you got her you don't want her? And since you lost interest the girls feels that too and maybe you're not doing the same things that attracted her in the first place?
 

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It s all about your ego gratification.

Once you realize you hooked her, the ego is gratified and you want more of that same feeling.....but with another woman.
Perhaps your attention span is so incredibly short , and your NEED to feed your Ego so great, that you lose interest immediately after securing your short term goal.

Have you been using affirmations, or NLP hypnosis MP3s?

If so, perhaps you may have been programming self limiting beliefs into your subconscious.
Unknowingly, you may have certain Goals embedded which are not actually healthy or mature or aligned with you.

The ego wants to be fed constantly.
And perhaps your immediate ego feeding is satisfying for an extremely short time, then when fed, you have to feed it again to get that same rush.

Whatever it is, you may have 'worked' on your inner game, but you have a loooooooong way to go if you're acting this way.
 

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yeah peters I would like to have a detailed answer....

n I guess losing interest part is something is to which a lot of guys can relate to....


sherineo
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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