Inner Game issues, need advice

[AlekNovy]

Ive been trying to talk to 3 people a day.

I have a new job, and dont know all the people there yet, and I'm going to at some point so I figure now is a better time than any to meet some of the people there. Im going to be going back to school, and this job isnt something important where I feel that I need to not hit on women at work (its replaceable), hell everyone there does it there anyways. But I'm not at that point yet so I'm not going to worry about picking up women.

I talked to 2 HB9s there today, and a guy. Its not that I was focusing on talking to the hot girls so much but rather that they were THERE and I thought what the hell.

The conversations were short, just small talk several times throughout the night. The one girl even kind of kept coming around and seemed like she felt comfortable around me. She told me she loves whipped cream....hmmm...okay. The other one went back to pretending I wasnt there, lol. The guy I talked to was very easy to talk to because he was just cool and laid back. Thats the type of person I want to become, someone whos easy going that makes everyone else comfortable.

Anyways, while I didnt feel 100% comfortable with the girls I tried my best to look that way. Infact, the entire time, I felt awkward.

But I think you're right. Im probably just thinking about it too much.

Man, you're already doing awesome!!

Why not do the following. Start a journal here, and for now, just make it your goal to just write in it daily. You're not a failure if you don't "talk to 3 people" or if you don't do whatever your daily action was.

You're only a failure if you don't write in the journal. So writing just "ok, today I somehow excused myself of taking action, ok tommorow is another day" (self acceptance). In no time you will be kicking butt.

There will be some trolls trying to bring you down on the downs, but they're a part of the journey, and there will be days when you suck and don't do ****. Don't matter, write it down.

I will definetely be following that journal.

 

[MacAvoy]

Why not do the following. Start a journal here, and for now, just make it your goal to just write in it daily. You're not a failure if you don't "talk to 3 people" or if you don't do whatever your daily action was.

You're only a failure if you don't write in the journal. So writing just "ok, today I somehow excused myself of taking action, ok tommorow is another day" (self acceptance). In no time you will be kicking butt.

Some excellent advice once again. I'm starting to develop a man crush on Alex's advice.