Inner Critic

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Probably the biggest obstacle to Healthy Self Esteem is Inner Critic

IMH experience the so far only way to treat it is combination of Zen Buddhism etc. like Eckhart Tolle and Inner Family Therapy/Parts Therapy.

Forget about bedding amaounts of women. It will only make you more confident that you can do that. It only brings a drop of self esteem (not very healthy) but no improvement in general human condition. Of course by over coming fear by trial nad error you will eventually tap in to your self esteem lack. But I advise taking opposite approach or at least more balanced. Stop chasing the skirts and meditate for a while.

WIKI

The inner critic is a concept used in popular psychology to refer to a subpersonality that judges and demeans a person. The inner critic is usually experienced as an inner voice attacking a person, saying that he or she is bad, wrong, inadequate, worthless, guilty, and so on. The inner critic often produces feelings of shame, deficiency, low self-esteem, and depression. It may also cause self-doubt and undermine self-confidence. It is common for people to have a harsh inner critic that is debilitating.

This concept is similar in many ways to the Freudian superego. Earley & Weiss [1] identify seven types of inner critics—the perfectionist, the taskmaster, the inner controller, the guilt tripper, the destroyer, the underminer, and the molder.

A number of self-help books deal with the inner critic, though some use other terms to denote it, such as "the judge" or "the gremlin." There are two different approaches to working with the inner critic:

(1) Treat it as an enemy to be ignored, dismissed, fought against, or overcome. This is the approach recommended by Brown [2] based on the Diamond Approach, Firestone, et al. [3], and Carson [4].

(2) Treat it as a misguided ally, to be befriended and transformed. This is the approach recommended by Stone & Stone [5] based on Voice Dialogue, Earley & Weiss [1] based on Internal Family Systems Therapy, and Allione [6] based on Tibetan Buddhism. These approaches see the inner critic as attempting to help or protect the person, though in a distorted, dysfunctional way. This makes it possible to connect with the critic and transform it into a helpful ally.

 

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