Initiating hookups with 25 plus women outside of bars/clubs.

[DoItAgain]

I have no problem approaching random women in most situations. My problem is reading them and the type of woman they might be (i.e. what they're looking for in a man if anything.)

I'm not looking for instant-hook-ups, but I am looking for the type of woman, that if gamed right, has no problem having recreational sex.

I'm also looking to avoid the type of prudish woman that only has sex in LTRs or when a guy tells her he loves her. I don't want to waste my time gaming a girl who is uptight about sex.

Basically I'm looking for women who might be potential f***-buddy or friends with benefits material, and I'm not sure how to find out sooner than later if the woman is that type of woman.

Also, I'm not looking to be one of those guys that tells a woman what she wants to hear, lies about wanting an LTR, etc., to get the sex. Not a moral issue...I'd just like to have sex with women who enjoys it like a guy does.

I can hear the laughter "Join the club"...I'm willing to put in the work, I'm just wondering what type of work I should be putting in and how to find out what type of woman the woman is right from the get-go so I don't waste my time or hers.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

this might take longer than you were hoping, but I have a friend who routinely had three or for FB's on the side, as well as his main squeeze. It took some time to get to that level. Think of a salesperson, you cold call, qualify, and fill your funnel. If you keep the same prospecting activity going, eventually you will have a consistently filled funnel full of high probability prospects.

Anyways, here's what he did.

He'd meet a girl, and either have a cup of coffee with her on the spot, or arrange to meet a day or so later.

During the conversation, he would describe his "friend." This "friend" always had multiple girlfriends, but this "friend" didn't lie to any of them or lead any of them on. It was completely open, and everybody knew what was up. He never hurt any feelings, and this "friend" and his ladies would get together whenever it was mutually convenient, and have mutual fun.

Later on in the conversation, he would covertly drop hints that he is really busy and doesn't have time for a serious relationship, but he might change his mind if the perfect woman came along. Hints only, not explicitly stated.

The "friend," of course, was just a story. The point of the story was to see how the girl reacted. If she smiled and agreed, and said something "well, as long as everybody is happy and nobody gets hurt," then my buddy would sarge on ahead, and usually convert her into a FB.

However, if she reacted prudishly, and made a face like she just ate a lemon, then the my buddy would finish the coffee "date," talk about the weather or whatever, and that was that.

keep in mind, her reaction, either positive or negative, is purely based on body language and facial expressions. She will never ever blurt out (despite so many guys thinking this is possible) "Oh, yea, I'd love to be one of your many fukk buddies. I hereby give you permission to fukk me and whoever else you'd like."

It's all implied, and not spoken. Also, it's not like she will sit there and wink at you as if you are both in on some mutual secret. If you ever bring it out in the open that she is one of your FB's, it's all over. Let her come to terms of what is going on on her own, without you asking for permission that it's OK.

Once you get into the habit of closing two or three a week, meet up for a coffee date (and who's going to refuse a meet for coffee at Borders?), you should have your fill of FB's in no time.

You'll also need to keep your funnel filled, as not too many ladies will go along with being only a FB without feeling the need for a commitment, so you'll be rotating people through your roster quite often.

 

[DoItAgain]

Thanks very much for the advice. Exactly what I was looking for.

Re-reading my post, it probably sounds like I just want fun sex without putting in work. Not the case at all. I'm just sick of dealing with women who clearly aren't going to put out in the near future, at least without being lied to.