Initiate/Escalate

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don Juan

Mar 7, 2008

I don't know how I can put my tip into words, but take it with a bag of salt.
In order to really set yourself up with opportunities to get laid really initiate and escalate things.

Ie. When in a club, pull a girl without getting a green light, if it works out keep going, if she pushes you away you can do the AFC thing and say you misread her signals. Often she will come back for more anyway. If you get along with a girl "isolate her" in some way to screw her.

IMHO Nice guys who charge at girls will get more puss than Jerks who don't escalate.

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.