"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Initially attracted her with DJ ways, then LTR and chilled. Make sense??

shark

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Well, i got this girl interested in me by using my newly learned DJ tricks. I mean, i'm a goodlooking guy so it's a bit easier..but with me kind of not giving her the attention all the time, and using ****y and funny..she went nuts. She REALLY REALLY liked me.

Soo we started going out, and now have been exclusive for 6 months. Things are pretty good.( But i mean, she is a bit of an AW. I cheated on her once, she cheated on me once..but we decided to stay together b/c it would make us stronger..in other words she is hot and i still want to hit it)

SOO..since were in the LTR in the beginning she got mad b/c i NEVER called/imed her and she always did..she was right so slowly i started calling and iming more. Then after like 3-4 months i started to call and im more..but STILL she probably call or imed more. I started being a BETTER LTR boyfriend BUT STILL..maintaiing ****y and funy..and not being clingy at all really.

HOWEVER..is it normal that the peak of her IL is in the beginning when im new? am i doing somtin wrong? Whats the deal fellas
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She lost all attraction and respect for you when you took her cheating ass back with no reprecussions. Just because she is the hottest girl in your HS is no reason to stay w/ her. Like I said before, she is just making a fool of you in front of everybody else. And what makes you think she is going to be attracted to what every else at your high school sees ... a big AFC.

Open your eyes already. You've been told, failed to take anybodies advice.

You know what, I'm not going to waste my breathe anymore. Call her up right now, tell her how much you love her, that your heart only beats for her. While your at it send over some flowers and chocolates.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56293 like blue told you already read # 10
 

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Well, first of all. We both cheated. Second, i'm not thinking that shes this LTR type of a girl..even tho thats what it is..im more in it for the action/fun. I'm in H.S. and i KNOW its just a h.s. relationship.

We lost our virginities to eachother, recently. She is still attracted to me, i know this. It's just that she doesn't CHASE as much, but there shouldnt be that in a LTR anyway?

And no, i don't act all AFC towards her. I point out when shes wrong, she calls me usually..so im not this afc buying gifts and spoiling her.
 

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basically, my gf is NOT LTR material. So as long as i dont get emotianlyl attached, ill be ok..right?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by shark
basically, my gf is NOT LTR material. So as long as i dont get emotianlyl attached, ill be ok..right?
She cheated on you, man. What do you think? And to be honest, based on what you said up there, you don't seem like LTR material either.
 

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shark-Listen I know your 17..I know that u have the whold world in front of you....

I know u love this girl..regardless of what u say.

if u stay with her..the longer you stay the more it will hurt when you lose her...which there is a 99 percent chance that will happen.

until you reach atleast 20 yrs old....the chances of LTRS lasting are crap..after 20...its starts to get better rapidly....its a case by case basis..

but at 17 its nearly a sure thing..dont do this to urself.
 
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