"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Initial lack-of-perspective regarding "plate-spinning"...

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Normally, when you're "spinning a lot of plates", you constantly have perspective and can evaluate women's strengths and weaknesses appropriately.

However, what if you're just starting out and don't have any plates spinning yet? When you don't have any plates spinning (or you're in a situation like mine where I dropped all my plates at the same time), it becomes extremely difficult to have a balanced perspective toward women and you start becoming very susceptible to one-itises and desperation.

What's the best way to keep perspective long enough to get the initial plate(s) spinning?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I would say make whatever progress you can with one girl, but do so in a non-rushed, take-it-or-leave-it approach. If you reach any kind of emotional or ****blocking roadblock with one, temporarily just ignore her and refocus on the next one. While your spending quality time with the next one, you're making the first one already wonder why you didn't give into her emotional demands. Then if you make enough progress with the second, move on to the third... etc.

Its kinda like investing, in that you make that intial investment, and sometimes you earn the most money just leaving it alone, until its time to "cash in" on it. Its a way of having "multile investments" while getting "maximum return" on them all at the same time. Just knowing you have backups (or diversified, using my investment analogy) gives you more confidence with each respective one, and ALSO makes you less fazed if one "investment" loses all principle.

You're supposed to learn what you need to know before you even start.

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It's always tougher when you have none spinning; especially if you have no experience.

Read the Bible, do Bootcamp and approach as many chicks as possible. AYOu will get one just by the numbers and the rest is downhill.
 

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How did you drop all your plates at the same time. That sounds like it's probably a funny story.
 

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What happened? I blinked.

Say you're feeding pigeons...you start with one, then a couple more land, and soon they're flocking all over you, maybe even eating out of your hand. Then a peacock lands and it's so beautiful you get nervous and lunge out to grab hold of it.

BAM...they all scatter. Back to square one.

You'd think after this happening 2 or 3 times I'd learn. :whistle:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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skip2mylou781 said:
ohhh so you had a bunch of hb7s and then u went for the hb9 and ditched all the 7s??? Ive done that before too, this is how a guy loses his game!
I didn't ditch them. In fact I had the HB9 on the floor of my living room naked. I just had a moment of weakness in my self-esteem at the end of the date and I think she read it...so since then there's been no further dates. I'm still trying, cuz a phone call costs nothing, but I think I'm gonna have to write her off if I don't see her soon.

I also broke it off with another girl I was seeing...she was kind of like my "foundation" during this time...we were everything but bf/gf officially and because I had her, I was confident enough to mack the other women. But she got tired of me being detached (truth is I just wasn't that into her...she was maybe a 6, with some head-issues) and we broke it off. I'm better off for it, but I still kinda miss her.

Since then I think the other women can tell that I got rattled, plus I'm not as into the 7s any more now that I've seen I can get my hands on a 9 if I'm confident enough.

But lately it's been hard to get perspective because I'm just looking for ONE steady source of 'nani.

I swear...I walked by Victoria's Secret yesterday and caught a whiff of some of those perfumes/body oils they sell there...I started having pvssy-flashbacks, like PTSD or something. :D
 
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