Initial Attraction Does NOT need to be there...

[comic_relief]

if you manage to play your cards right. This has happened to me each and every time that I have had a girlfriend.

They first meet me, neither of us has any want to be with each other.

How did I get from there to here (these three girls eventually became my girlfriends. The first was a girlfriend for three months, the second was a girlfriend for a year and a quarter, and the current one is not a week old (she made me realize this pattern) ).

This is the how, even though my initial looks was not there (take that looks people ) and my small demeanor was there. They didn't expect two things from me, my insatiable appetite for success and my inability to accept "no." Plus my ability to alleviate boredom with fun things to do. I also had massive amounts of social proof while we talked (luck would have it that I would always have people walk up to me to say hi). Finally, I have a wicked sense of humor.

Neither of us wanted to go after each other, but as she started to notice how I acted and as she began to open up. We both realized that we should begin to see where things went. We took the risk, and guess what? We are very happy together. We still joke just like all of my previous exes do on how neither of us wanted to date each other in the beginning.

I owe everything that i have gotten with women to my personality. God, did not give me a good set of genes or anything externally, but I learned that thing called charm.

This is why even if you are lacking in the gentic department, you can still succeed with women. You just got to have charm which is a combination in my opinion of insatiable appetite for success, inability to accept a "no", Being fun, social proof, and humor.

Become the man of your dreams and you will suddenly become the man of their dreams as well. Suddenly, the women will become the ones that hit on you and life will become a lot easier. Best of luck on your DJ journey.

It works, field tested and comic_relief approved.

comic_relief

 

[Docs]

Inability for a no. You got me slightly confused bud, just a little. You say neither of you were pursuring each other.

Meh, seems good though. Someone fun to hang around always seems to attract, oddly enough.

 

[comic_relief]

What I mean is that neither of us was initially attracted to each other, but as we got to see each others personalities flourish, so did our attractions.

I believe that a neglected skillset on this website is just being fun. We get lost on this website in being c/f, negging, give/take, or whatever there is instead of just going with nature and being yourself.

We always hide ourselves behind this misinterrupted idea of what a DJ is. When in reality, we are already a DJ but just misguided. We all have the DJ-ism budding inside of us ready to be released. We just must get rid of our fears that we must confront. Our fear of ourselves and what people think.

Be your best self, which is what it actually means to be a DJ.

comic_relief

NOTE: Inability for a no means that most people say that "no" you cannot do such and such. I just live by my own rules and do what I like to do. Usually that clashes with society's rules of behavior. I am therefore having an inability to say no.

I also look at people's body language instead of what they say. There is an inability to say no if there bodies enjoy it.

 

[Docs]

I see see ^_^

 

[tmpgstx]

One of you had to be attracted though, at least marginally. I'm guessing since you are the guy, there had to be some attraction, even if it wasn't alot at first. It is either there or it isn't. In that respect, it is important that neither person gets turned off for some reason or another.

 

[Charm]

^ agrceed with tmpgstx. You wanted her poon.

 

[IbleedCrimson]

What I mean is that neither of us was initially attracted to each other, but as we got to see each others personalities flourish, so did our attractions.

I think you're missing the key point of this board. Your post would make much more sense (considering that you said that you overcame genetic "deficiencies" if you will) if you were able to bag a deal w/ a girl who wasn't attracted to you...but you were very much attracted to her.

Eventually hooking up w/ a girl that you weren't attracted to initially isn't the hardest and rarest thing to do in the world. In fact, there are many girls who you're not attracted to and become friends with just to hook up later. But the key again, is can you overcome deficiencies and date a girl who by all means is regarded very attractive and you, not quite as much. That's game and DJ-ing.

Again, congrats on your girl. Hope this relationship is all you expect it to be.

 

[Styles]

ALot of times, girls will pretend like the don't like you because they are waiting on you to quit pondering bull**** and become a man.

Great post

 

[comic_relief]

I think you're missing the key point of this board.

I'm still trying to figure out what the point of this board is. Originally I thought the board was all about women, then I realized that it was about self-improvement, but now I think that this board is more about finding yourself and becoming the best person that you can become. I think that I might be getting somewhere.

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tmpgstx,

Don't get me wrong tmpgstx, there was no INITIAL attraction. Eventually, there was attraction through use of my personality which was looking at other girls at the time, I managed to capture her heart. Just because you DO NOT have initial attraction between yourself and a woman does not mean that you cannot win her. It just means that you must let your personality shine.

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Charm,

If I wanted a girl, I could easily have gotten one from a plethora of different places. LIke I said before, I have a high social proof among the university. She was not my first choice for that, but her personality is definitely A+ . No clinginess or b!tchiness. Just a treat to hang out with.

comic_relief

 

[The Juan and only]

I agree with this. No initial attraction necessary.


Kino (i.e frequent "friendly" hugging) is a good way to develop things.