Initating + Flaking = AW?

[the_reader]

so i've been wondering what you guys woud think of this (yes i did look up the searchs for AW and what not).

I've taken the liberty of initiating and calling for the 1st date, she cancelled, then calls me 2 days later to go out. We go out.

I initiated calling for the 2nd date, she cancelled, then e-mails me to "call her when i'm up for another dinner." At that point I decide to "next" her. I didn't talk to her for about 2 weeks, and just left her a simple msg on msn to say "happy new year." she Immediately asks me if I got her e-mail. I work around the subject and she asks another 3 -4 times until i acknowledge that i did, and told her I didn't reply because she cancelled last time. She tells me a reasonable excuse why she said no ( too last minute, and yes it was I called her 1/2 hour before I was leaving)

I initiate the 3rd time to ask her for lunch and to call me when she's out of class, she says "why dont' you call me in that case?"
After a small argument I say "fine, I'll callyou." I call her for lunch, she's already on the bus home. I said "nevermind forget it" and hang up.

She calls the same night sounding like she's about to cry she says "talk to me". We talk for a bit and she casually tells me why she went home, plz note i wasn't going AFC and asking her why she flaked on me at lunch.


Getting sick of this flaking ****. She says she likes assertive guys (meaning she wants guys to do all the ****) but I'm not really into that I say if a girls interested in me she can chase my ass not me chasing her.

 

[Brian20o2]

Its either a major shyt test or shes a big AW

 

[KarmaSutra]

Originally posted by Brian20o2
Its either a major shyt test or shes a big AW

I agree with youngblood here.

She's testing your resolve because, 1. You caved already and asked her out so she feels the chase is on and validated that she can leash you around.
2. I applaud the fact that you're now standing up to her but I feel it's too late. You need to put her on the sidestep and walk around her while amping up the play with other young hunnies. You get to her by going through her friends. If she is the objective. If not, Buckwheat her a$$.

 

[the_reader]

Originally posted by KarmaSutra
I agree with youngblood here.

She's testing your resolve because, 1. You caved already and asked her out so she feels the chase is on and validated that she can leash you around.
2. I applaud the fact that you're now standing up to her but I feel it's too late. You need to put her on the sidestep and walk around her while amping up the play with other young hunnies. You get to her by going through her friends. If she is the objective. If not, Buckwheat her a$$.

What do you mean by "testing my resolve"?

Ya she already know's she's not the end all be all, she knows that I am doing stuff with other girls. she doesn't have friends hahaha she's a msn junkie. I'm not as intersted in her as i was before right now i'm more just practicing and trying to learn what's going on for future references.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Originally posted by the_reader
What do you mean by "testing my resolve"?

What I'm saying is she wants to see if you'll take off your dress and take your balls out of her purse.

 

[Brian20o2]

Originally posted by KarmaSutra
What I'm saying is she wants to see if you'll take off your dress and take your balls out of her purse.

OUCH! Sadly thats what feminism has done to 90+% of men in the western world.

 

[the_reader]

lol well that explains a lot (honestly it does) haha ya... well my dads a **** and up and left, I was raised w/ by my Mom and sis since i was 3 , both what you would call very strong headed women... anyways

so now i'm wondering, If i were to just go directly to her and more or less say ( in nicer words of course) "quit ****ing around we're going out wednesday night" would that be at least a start to getting my balls back where they belong?

i'm thinking I might as well do it... practice right?

 

[Brian20o2]

As my dad puts it "I give you respect and I demand it back"

 

[the_reader]

mmmm k i'll give it one last shot, if it doesn't pann out, i'll take it as a loss. Lesson for the next time around.

 

[n00bPimp]

The difference between an AW and a normal girl is that they both are not attracted to you, except the AW still wants the attention, while the normal chick just ignores you. So this girl is not into you, a girl that is attracted to you would drop anything to spend the time with you. If you're valuable to her and you challenge her you'll make her feel sexual tension. However once you let the tension lose there wont be any attraction from her. For women sexual tension is what for a man is sexual desire, once a man's sexual desires for a girl are filled, he usually moves on, unless theres something beyond sexuality that he likes about the girl. Same thing with girls except for them its sexual tension not sexual desire. So consider this girl lost, unless you can make her feel sexual tension again which is very hard to regain once its been lost.