****ing **** it. Find a new one.

[GADavid]

I've had serious, pathetic, ridiculous oneitis for a chick for about ten months. AFC, right? I begged this chick to even just be friends; as recently as today. She also has a boyfriend. How could it get more pathetic? **** it, I said. I got rejected by "the one" yet again today. So just damn it to hell.

On a whim I went with a coworker for drinks. On my way there I invited a chick. Rather, I told her to meet us there. I said, "we're going to xxxxx. Come". When I got there she was looking around for me despite having been out with other people beforehand. This girl is seriously hot, a guinuine good girl, kinda awesome. If I had not gotten shot down again by my oneitis I'd have spent another night with a woman who doesn't have any potential as a LTR and in a seriously ****ed up situation that causes nothing but drama and pain.

My point is, get over the oneitis. When you do, you open yourself to a whole new world and new, awesome chicks! Bonus: oneitis was 5 years older than I, new nice chick is 7 years younger than I. I just traded up 13 years and for a chick worth being with. Bonus bonus: I amoged for the first time ever by not giving a ****. She was talking to other guys, to which I did not respond, yet was constantly beckoning me to rescue her from them. By the end of the night they were saying how they were threatened by me at first but thought I was a cool guy. That's right, submit! She also couldn't get enough and ignored guys who've been orbiting her for years. Poor guys need to find this place! Haha

And thanks to this forum I didn't focus on just her. Pulled 3 numbers and danced with tons of hot girls (which I never do). This place taught me to say "**** it". So simple, so genius. I have much to learn yet, but tonight was my turning point. I'm free, reborn, and addicted to the Don Juan way. I get it...finally. Thank you for all those who contribute here. You saved a guy who was so pathetic he wanted to die. It's a second and totally different chance I never saw coming.

 

[Greasy Pig]

That's awesome man! I too had a similar awakening.
It's amazing how true the stuff you read on here is.
A word of caution: even the most DJ of DJs slips up now and again but don't let it undermine your core values and what you've learned.

 

[flashpoint]

On my way there I invited a chick. Rather, I told her to meet us there. I said, "we're going to xxxxx. Come".

i like that part very much. that is how you set up a date by text.

 

[jonhaul]

I got fed up with heart ache and just wanted to improve myself thats why I am here too... The emotional pain drove me here however I already knew some things like walking away and there is in fact more than just a ONEITUS. Better to start over with a new chick that actually may like you than to dwell over someone who dont care about you!

 

[GADavid]

i like that part very much. that is how you set up a date by text.

I'll admit, I was beyond proud of myself for that! I'd never given a woman a straight up command like that before and wouldn't have if I'd not started reading here.

There was none of the typical bs about already being out with other guys (which she was). The next text and phone call were "are you here yet?" I didn't see these until I'd gotten there. I checked my phone and without hesitation I showed her my phone and said, "OMG this chick (her) is blowing up my phone. She can't wait to see me!" The response was her shyly admitting it and constantly hitting me saying "you're sooo meeean".

We met up with her brother at a different bar about an hour later. I talked to the guy for a while. A half hour in he was saying stuff like, I think my sister likes you and that he'd be happy if a guy like me went out with her! I was a little nervous about trying to escalate things with a protective brother around, but no matter. I handled it like never before and think this will work in my favor.

 

[JohnChops]

****ing love success stories, good for you mate. Im actually starting realize how much of a piece of sh1t my oneitis girl was cause she was BPD. An awakening is occuring as we speak!

 

[GADavid]

****ing love success stories, good for you mate. Im actually starting realize how much of a piece of sh1t my oneitis girl was cause she was BPD. An awakening is occuring as we speak!

Thanks and good for you, man!

I was also demonizing women from my past just to knock them off the pedestal I had placed them atop. You want to know my greatest epiphany? It's not necessary to do so. My biggest gain in emmotional maturity came when I realized a lot of great women will come and go in this lifetime. What is the one thing they all have in common? I managed to get into relationships with them. So, these great women all thought I was great too. Without fail, they end up dating and often settling down with a loser and are obvioiusly very unhappy. Meanwhile I keep finding new, great women. While they are on a pedestal, mine is higher. Call it confidence. Maybe one day I'll find a chick who's pedestal is close to my own and I'll marry the **** out of her.

 

[GADavid]

That's awesome man! I too had a similar awakening.
It's amazing how true the stuff you read on here is.
A word of caution: even the most DJ of DJs slips up now and again but don't let it undermine your core values and what you've learned.

Noted. It has been almost an hourly battle not to feel like I'm losing my mind over losing my oneitis (banged her a bunch and got addicted to her...really loved her). I still think about her nearly 24/7. You know when I didn't think about her at all? When the chick, 13 years her junior, was grinding on me in the bar! haha. That is escape in its truest form. All I want to do is get back out there and find new ones. Its like a drug; I got a taste of it and I want more. A lot more. Like so many here say, the best way to get over a girl is to go find someone else... its the absolute truth. Go find a new one!

 

[JohnChops]

Question how old are you