Informing each other of our whereabouts

[Glenfiddich101]

I'm just curious, for you guys in a LTR, do you find it necessary for both parties to inform the other person of his/her whereabouts?

I'm not talking abt taking a toilet break or running off to the store to get something. But if she has plans afterwork or during the weekend.

Somehow with my new LTR, i told her once abt it. She did it a few times then it stopped.

i have a good mind to remind her again but somehow its like giving her the power.

It bugs me to osme extend cos its always a natural thing with my ex LTRs.

So should i bring it up or just let it be?

 

[NewMan]

how long have you guys been dating?

How old are you?

 

[diplomatic_lie]

Yeah, tell her whenever you go to the toilet. Just call her cell, and tell her "Honey, I'm going to take a crap, thought you'd like to know."

 

[Glenfiddich101]

Originally posted by NewMan
how long have you guys been dating?

How old are you?

Hi Newman

Been in an exclusive with her for 3 mnths now.

we are both 28. Well to some guys it may be too controlling. But i've no interest in plotting a movement chart for her. But just to know that she's ok.

Frankly speaking, its easier to have a fcuk care attitute.

 

[Kaine]

Short of inserting an anal probe with a satelite GPS system in her rectum, asking her to call you each time she wants to do something without you is intrusive. Even though you might mean well, it comes off to her as insecure and is unattractive behaviour.

She should however go out of the way to tell you if she is going away for some extended amount of time. You should aslo expect her to be honest if you ask.

This does not apply if you are living together. In which case there would be some exceptions just out of politeness

If this is a healthy relationship with healthy individuals where there has been no problem AND you are not living in wartorn Irag leave it be. What you are expecting from her should only apply for prison inmates on parole, or preschoolers.

Stay attractive by not bugging her.

 

[Desdinova]

It's only necessary if you're living with her. The two of you should still have your own separate lives to live.

 

[Maverick001]

Glenfiddich101,

On those days and occasions when you're not seeing her, you trust her to not go on safari to meet other guys right?

If so, leave her alone and don't sweat it. If your radar and gut instinct isn't being tripped then relax.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav

 

[squirrels]

Get her one of those leg-collars they put on prisoners so you can track her.

Or better yet, one of those electric dog collars, so if she tries to leave your property she gets zapped.

Seriously, dude...you don't OWN her. If she's not having a negative impact on YOUR life by not telling you every time she goes somewhere, then chill out.

Married couples tell each other where they're going to be a lot because they often plan their lives around each other and the kids. You're in a "new LTR". You guys don't need to know each other's every move.

 

[NewMan]

Get a chastity belt as well.....


But...

I think your overreacting here.

Are you worried that she's cheating on you? or that she's going out meeting other guys?


The important part is that you trust her.


If your worrying about it - then your giving he the power.

I say you relax and do YOUR own thing.

just make sure YOU DO NOT tell her what your doing (but don't turn this into a tit for tat game).