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Don Juan
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Hey DJs,
back for some more A game advice!
So this past weekend the girl I've been dating for 4 months and I went to a northern part of our country. We were having a good time. However I started drinking heavily, and even consumed a substance I shouldn't have.
Anyway, I already had plans to confront this girl about something that has been on my mind for a couple of weeks now. I made the mistake of asking to see her phone (I wanted to check whatsapp or her text messages) because I have been presuming that she's been talking with her ex boyfriend.
She flatly denied me (of course) and so I blew up. I completely lost my cool. And she later started crying because of what I said and the way I acted. I was already driving back home when I remembered that I had the hotel keys, and she said she doesn't want to go anywhere and for us to go back to the hotel. I told her I am willing to walk away if I need to. She did ended up giving me her phone unlocked but at this point I was over it, so I didn't go through it. I just wanted to see what her reaction would be.
So we wake up yesterday (sunday) morning and she is obviously very indifferent and aloof. Mind you, still in my arms and still kissing me (like she wanted to, not forced or anything).
Then we sort of spoke about what happened and why it did. And I just said to her "I was under the presumption that you haven't closed your past". and she asked why I thought that. And I said because of some words she's used before when relating to her ex, and the last time we spoke about her having her ex on facebook and in her contacts and him reaching out back to her, and she said she didn't "want to look like the weak one by blocking him". She then said she'll block him if I want her to. I said do what you feel is right". She said I hurt her by what I said and how I acted out on her. She then cried some more. Said she doesn't want to talk about it yet. So that's left unresolved.
However around midday I picked up a buddy of mine that lives in that area and we go to river crossing where we went over to the Mexican side of the river, had a great time, and she opened back up, her mood was better, we were laughing and having a great time.
I dropped her home, she turned to me and gave me a kiss as usual before stepping out.
She usually texts me to find out if I reached home safe, or to say I miss you, or something like that. She hasn't reached out yet. Cool. I always wait it out and sure enough, she usually contacts me at some point.
I'd like to know how I should handle this situation. Last weekend, we had "the talk" but I didn't fully commit to her. She did expressed her desire to be in a relationship with me, and that I shouldn't be seeing anyone else at the moment.
Should I give her the space to resolve her own conflicting feelings at this time or should i reach out to try to fix any damage that was done?
Mind you, a similar situation happened about 2 weekends ago but over an ex of mine we ran into in the city she's from - and the ex confronted her and she thought me and the ex still had something going on. She said she never wanted that to happen again and she hates feeling that way and the drama.
but it happened again this past weekend. and I understand this could be taken totally AFC/insecure.
thanks for any advice you can bestow upon this upcoming DJ.
back for some more A game advice!
So this past weekend the girl I've been dating for 4 months and I went to a northern part of our country. We were having a good time. However I started drinking heavily, and even consumed a substance I shouldn't have.
Anyway, I already had plans to confront this girl about something that has been on my mind for a couple of weeks now. I made the mistake of asking to see her phone (I wanted to check whatsapp or her text messages) because I have been presuming that she's been talking with her ex boyfriend.
She flatly denied me (of course) and so I blew up. I completely lost my cool. And she later started crying because of what I said and the way I acted. I was already driving back home when I remembered that I had the hotel keys, and she said she doesn't want to go anywhere and for us to go back to the hotel. I told her I am willing to walk away if I need to. She did ended up giving me her phone unlocked but at this point I was over it, so I didn't go through it. I just wanted to see what her reaction would be.
So we wake up yesterday (sunday) morning and she is obviously very indifferent and aloof. Mind you, still in my arms and still kissing me (like she wanted to, not forced or anything).
Then we sort of spoke about what happened and why it did. And I just said to her "I was under the presumption that you haven't closed your past". and she asked why I thought that. And I said because of some words she's used before when relating to her ex, and the last time we spoke about her having her ex on facebook and in her contacts and him reaching out back to her, and she said she didn't "want to look like the weak one by blocking him". She then said she'll block him if I want her to. I said do what you feel is right". She said I hurt her by what I said and how I acted out on her. She then cried some more. Said she doesn't want to talk about it yet. So that's left unresolved.
However around midday I picked up a buddy of mine that lives in that area and we go to river crossing where we went over to the Mexican side of the river, had a great time, and she opened back up, her mood was better, we were laughing and having a great time.
I dropped her home, she turned to me and gave me a kiss as usual before stepping out.
She usually texts me to find out if I reached home safe, or to say I miss you, or something like that. She hasn't reached out yet. Cool. I always wait it out and sure enough, she usually contacts me at some point.
I'd like to know how I should handle this situation. Last weekend, we had "the talk" but I didn't fully commit to her. She did expressed her desire to be in a relationship with me, and that I shouldn't be seeing anyone else at the moment.
Should I give her the space to resolve her own conflicting feelings at this time or should i reach out to try to fix any damage that was done?
Mind you, a similar situation happened about 2 weekends ago but over an ex of mine we ran into in the city she's from - and the ex confronted her and she thought me and the ex still had something going on. She said she never wanted that to happen again and she hates feeling that way and the drama.
but it happened again this past weekend. and I understand this could be taken totally AFC/insecure.
thanks for any advice you can bestow upon this upcoming DJ.
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