"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Indifference

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Noobs are often taught as a fundamental that being indifferent is the key too rivers off p!ussy

Where this is true, it only works when you are indifferent BECAUSE you actually are indifferent and not just for her benefit , women can see straight through bulls1it they communicate in it 24 hours a day 7 days a week so the notion of “faking it until you make it” is utter rubbish

So how do you become “indifferent” !?! well it’s a tough job and most men won’t have the balls to do it you need to become completely self dependent forget about women for the time being..... you need your own goals , your own hobbies , rules, interests, styles and tastes and these will take years and years to develop but you will become a better man because of it ......

you have to let go of almost everything you’ve been taught throughout life and yes you are going to upset/offend a lot of people in the process

( the reason most “nice” guys always end up with jack sh1t in life because they never want to upset anyone fvcking yes men)

Being indifferent is all about having your own code , your own rules and a complete confidence to fulfil them regardless of what is trying to influence you otherwise

Think about it like this

Most heros/ villains you see on tv shows ? .......why do women fall weak at the knees for these men ? .....

Its not because they have a different hairstyle or a different dress code to anyone else

Its because these characters aren’t interested in smashing the chicks ......they are there to complete their own agendas save / destroy the world....... the females are merely there to tag along and ride his c0ck when he is stressed

When you finally have your own agenda and a “plan” women will be falling over themselves to get your attention

Women are inherently designed to follow not lead
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bingo-Player said:
Being indifferent is all about having your own code , your own rules and a complete confidence to fulfil them regardless of what is trying to influence you otherwise
You can only be indifferent if you genuinely don't care much about the outcome. As a straight male, you can only be indifferent about the outcome with a particular female in one of three possible scenarios:

1. You are not that attracted to her;
2. You have have many other options; and/or
3. Women are not high on your list of priorities in life.

Note that #3 is often, though not always, linked to #2.
 

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Bokanovsky said:
You can only be indifferent if you genuinely don't care much about the outcome. As a straight male, you can only be indifferent about the outcome with a particular female in one of three possible scenarios:

1. You are not that attracted to her;
2. You have have many other options; and/or
3. Women are not high on your list of priorities in life.

Note that #3 is often, though not always, linked to #2.
Agreed.

However, I think the real challenge for most guys is to try to de-link #2 and #3. Most guys don't have multiple options. But if they can learn to not give a F anyway, it's all the better. They should still TRY with women, but not get hung up on the outcome.
 

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Great advice here. Ever notice how easy it is to pick up the woman you are not interested in?

High value or not, sometimes I am just not in the mood for it. Out just trying to watch the game, shoot some pool, etc... Then, next thing you know, you are making sure she didn't leave any personal effects behind in the morning.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Agreed.

However, I think the real challenge for most guys is to try to de-link #2 and #3. Most guys don't have multiple options. But if they can learn to not give a F anyway, it's all the better. They should still TRY with women, but not get hung up on the outcome.
Agreed, though for many men it will be difficult due to something called hormones. The fact that there is major cultural shaming of men who are perceived as not being successful with women does not help either.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Its because these characters aren’t interested in smashing the chicks ......they are there to complete their own agendas save / destroy the world....... the females are merely there to tag along and ride his c0ck when he is stressed
I disagree that these characters aren't interested in smashing the chicks. If they didn't want to smash the chicks, they wouldn't. But when the mood strikes them, they grab the girl and smash they do. They just take what they want, when they want it.

To me, that's not indifference, that's going for what they want. In fact, I'd say that's the exact opposite of indifference. If they were truly indifferent, they wouldn't even notice the chick, let alone grab her and bang her.

I think indifference is highly overrated around here. Obviously, you don't want to be overeager, needy, or "thirsty". What is more important, IMO, is intent. Guys who intend to bang the chicks will usually bang the chicks long before someone who is indifferent about banging them.

The type of indifference that is most helpful, IMO, is the indifference that is born of having a sh!t ton of options.
 
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