"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Indifference.

Jair213

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HB8 - Girl at front desk. Guys talk to her. Probably gets hit on everyday. Etc.

I go in in the mornings. She usually say's Hi or Goodmorning when she scans my gym card. I only say Hi or Goodmorning too, and that's it.

After 2 weeks I go in and she scans my card and she of course could see my info on the computer and as soon as she scans she calls me by my name and I just look at her and didn't say anything.

As time passes I go in and follow the same cycle.

As more time go's by I notice a change in her body language and face gestures. As if she feels uncomfortable by my mere presence. I don't pay attention too it though I ignore it. I keep on doing me. All of a sodden one day on my key chain(were I also have my little gym attached)
I put a Jordan shoe its like a little shoe design, and she comments ''that's cute'' I say ''thanks'' and grab the key chain from her hand and I grab a hold of her hand really smooth as I took the key chain of her hand.

The next time I went in. She greeted again I greeted back but instead of her grabbing my card to scan it, she stood there and looked at me with a neutral stare for about 4 seconds, I kept my ground and stared back neutrally also right in to her eyes and she broke contact I stood my ground. then she just scan my card, etc. next day wnet in again, but this time I notice something diferent it was like she was shy now, she couldn't even look at me. lol

(I notice all of this bodylanguage was even happening even before she looked at me for those couple of seconds)Now every time I go in, its like she brakes loose. Even before I enter the door and she notices from a distance that I am coming its like she starts panicking, she starts moving around, she reeks awkwardness, she starts looking everywhere its like she's lost, and its like she try's to do something else. You could see she's nervous. When I approach closer though she try's so hard to keep a normal, calm face, and neutral body language all around. its hilarious I feel like busting out laughing sometimes. LOL

Anybody have any idea why she would react this way? im not interested in her at all im just curious in her behavior in body language etc. why would she be reacting this way? or is it because im acting disinterested and not giving her attention.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sounds like to me she's feeling attracted to you, and doesn't know how to handle it. Thus why she's getting nervous, can't maintain composure, etc. I think it's a mix of you being indifferent, but also having an air of confidence, it sounds like. I wouldn't be too surprised if she got more flirty.
 

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This happened to me in a class once. Whenever I would walk by a chick she would get all flustered up, moving her notebook and pens around. Just ask her for her name and number next time. Then you'll know.

If it doesn't work out, you can always go back to ignoring her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thing is im not interested in her at all

its just crazy how this works lol
 

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Odd how you claim to be indifferent yet you have so much intel on this *****. Indifferent means you do not care. If your so care free, how do you know so much about her eye contact, how she twittled her thumbs or got antsy when you walked in? Ive worked out in gyms from Santana Monica to DC, I can't name one little slut who checked me in. Why? I never looked at her face, her name tag or her ass. On the odd occasion one of my boys made a comment about her, my response was a chuckle. No idea. I was at the gym to work, not entertain some hatchet wound. To me, your playing games. If she's anything like the girls I know, she's probably uncomfortable because you stare at her And say nothing. Girls I know would write you off as a sociopath or a fag. If your so confident, walk up to her and ask her why she's akward Around you. ... better bring a sweater
 

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topshelf19 said:
Odd how you claim to be indifferent yet you have so much intel on this *****. Indifferent means you do not care. If your so care free, how do you know so much about her eye contact, how she twittled her thumbs or got antsy when you walked in? Ive worked out in gyms from Santana Monica to DC, I can't name one little slut who checked me in. Why? I never looked at her face, her name tag or her ass.
Interesting point. Topshelf here is the one who is truly being indifferent. The fact that the OP did the "smooth hand grab" thing with her shows that he is intentionally playing games with her.
 

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topshelf19 said:
Odd how you claim to be indifferent yet you have so much intel on this *****. Indifferent means you do not care. If your so care free, how do you know so much about her eye contact, how she twittled her thumbs or got antsy when you walked in? Ive worked out in gyms from Santana Monica to DC, I can't name one little slut who checked me in. Why? I never looked at her face, her name tag or her ass. On the odd occasion one of my boys made a comment about her, my response was a chuckle. No idea. I was at the gym to work, not entertain some hatchet wound. To me, your playing games. If she's anything like the girls I know, she's probably uncomfortable because you stare at her And say nothing. Girls I know would write you off as a sociopath or a fag. If your so confident, walk up to her and ask her why she's akward Around you. ... better bring a sweater
playing games? nobody is playing games here.. who said I ever cared? that doesn't mean im not gonna notice sh!tt neither.. oh oh oh here we goooo.. of course your going to atleast glance when some one greets you or when you atleast checking in...

why would I even bother asking? all I did was not give them attention like all my friends do when they go in or start convo's about whatever or even checking them out or even looking at em, etc.. the fugg you on?:rolleyes:
 

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zekko said:
Interesting point. Topshelf here is the one who is truly being indifferent. The fact that the OP did the "smooth hand grab" thing with her shows that he is intentionally playing games with her.
and that time I did that cuz she whent deep In to my hand with her's.. don't know if that makes any sense.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jair213,

I'm not trying to bash you, but I hope you see this is a wake up call

I've seen a few posts from you about talking to women, none of them seem to go anywhere, and they're mostly focused on the theory of attraction. Let me ask you this:

Are you on this site to understand attraction or to get better with women?

I'm guessing your picking the latter. So please, start asking yourself this kind of question (and even this forum) "how do I start to get better with women in the real world?"
 
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