there's this girl who shows a lot of interest in me and all but she can be rude sometimes and has to have her way. so a week back we were planning to go for a movie. she called me up in the morning to reschedule at last minute and when i was reluctant she started her sh*t about how i can take care of the things later and this and that. her tone was one of "your work isn't priority you can take care of it later".
I wasn't in the mood but still told her ok but im gonna have to rush off after the movie. so she tells me "if you're just gonna rush off after the movie then better don't come". this kinda pissed me off and after 5 seconds of silence i told her ok and disconnected. Didn't respond to her text or received her call. 3 days later her friend cotacts me on blackberry about how i should make things up bla bla bla. i told her i wasn't angry but i don't tolerate rudeness either. It hardly affected coz I wasn't emotionally invested in this chic and I could care less. Still i remained NC with the girl. today morning almost a week later she calls me up from her work place. she tells me she wanted me to stay coz she had a surprise planned for me as i was moving out of the country and that's why she was angry. i told her that's sweet of her however you changed your plans last minute after i cleared my afternoon for you and i don't tolerate the kind of tone you used. anyways long story short we are going out again tommorow night.
the lesson i learned from this entire situation is when you respect yourself and your time more than the girl you're dating/spinning/having a relationship with/are "good friends" with, you will eventually have the upper hand.
fact is i was never interested in a serious thing with her. she's good company but i don't feel chemistry and im still not over my ex. i did not give a damn if this gal felt bad or not coz frankly i didn't care much. i don't think i wud have done the same thing if it was my ex. infact after a few days of NC i might have broken down and contacted her and apologized. and then i realized what was my mistake all along with my ex. i tolerated too much sh*t from my her out of love and fear of not losing her. all this lowered her IL. if i had gone NC at the very first serious fight we had and controlled the AFC within me to remain calm and composed then things might have been great with the one woman I truly love.
Lesson is respect yourself more than anyone and your feelings and time should be your #1 priority. Nothing works more than pure unadulterated indifference. Never believe that self sacrifice is a virtue. Atleast not when it comes to women.
I wasn't in the mood but still told her ok but im gonna have to rush off after the movie. so she tells me "if you're just gonna rush off after the movie then better don't come". this kinda pissed me off and after 5 seconds of silence i told her ok and disconnected. Didn't respond to her text or received her call. 3 days later her friend cotacts me on blackberry about how i should make things up bla bla bla. i told her i wasn't angry but i don't tolerate rudeness either. It hardly affected coz I wasn't emotionally invested in this chic and I could care less. Still i remained NC with the girl. today morning almost a week later she calls me up from her work place. she tells me she wanted me to stay coz she had a surprise planned for me as i was moving out of the country and that's why she was angry. i told her that's sweet of her however you changed your plans last minute after i cleared my afternoon for you and i don't tolerate the kind of tone you used. anyways long story short we are going out again tommorow night.
the lesson i learned from this entire situation is when you respect yourself and your time more than the girl you're dating/spinning/having a relationship with/are "good friends" with, you will eventually have the upper hand.
fact is i was never interested in a serious thing with her. she's good company but i don't feel chemistry and im still not over my ex. i did not give a damn if this gal felt bad or not coz frankly i didn't care much. i don't think i wud have done the same thing if it was my ex. infact after a few days of NC i might have broken down and contacted her and apologized. and then i realized what was my mistake all along with my ex. i tolerated too much sh*t from my her out of love and fear of not losing her. all this lowered her IL. if i had gone NC at the very first serious fight we had and controlled the AFC within me to remain calm and composed then things might have been great with the one woman I truly love.
Lesson is respect yourself more than anyone and your feelings and time should be your #1 priority. Nothing works more than pure unadulterated indifference. Never believe that self sacrifice is a virtue. Atleast not when it comes to women.
