"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Indicators of Disinterest. Nismo4 GREAT point!

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Thought this would make a great topic from an excellent point Nismo4 made regarding IOD's on my IOI's are basically useless thread.

IMO most chicks unless they find you repulsive or simply don't even want you as an orbiter (you creep them out or they are serious with their boyfriend) will NOT give out indicators of disinterest to you.

Most chicks want to knit their own security blankets for their OWN child like insecurities by throwing out false IOI's and NOT giving IOD's to certain dudes as they may not want to really "get with you" but are simply doing so because they want to make you "think" they "like" you more than they really do. It could be because they want you as a backup, a simple ego boost due to the guy they REALLY want to ask them out but hasn't, a fight with their BF, or are simply an AW.

The only way to tell if the chick is really about it with you and you ARE getting IOI's and NOT getting IODs from a chick is to not be strung along in the chicks possible self serving game by ASKING right away (not sitting in your own "i think she likes me" fantasy saftey comfort zone) if she has or what she's doing with her boyfriend. Don't wait to "find out" she actually does have a boyfriend from someone else after you've been strung along by the chick when you could've asked up front.... Ask up front! If no. Go for the next step of a number and a hang out ASAP.

If the chick DOES have a boyfriend and STILL wants to hang out and you simply don't care about going with chicks with BFs. Then go for it for a FB never a wifey. Though Karma is a b1tch...and you'll most likely get it back in spades.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Luke!! said:
Very true post! By any chance are you NaughtyNinja?

I'm not at liberty to divuldge that top secret information. Thanks for the inquiry Luke!!
 

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I don't think you should ever ask that question.

Ask if she is single, don't ask if she has a boyfriend. Saying that word will trigger images of some other guy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If its someone I just met I will say we should meet for drinks give me your number and we'll set something up. she will bring up a boyfriend if she has one then.

otherwise if I have her number I ask her out early enough where she should tell me about her boyfriend.

I think the point of this thread is to not waste time on a girl if you don't know if she is single or not.
 
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