independent girls

[Zerotwoonenine]

hey guys u ever gone out with a girl that u feel that doesnt want to depend on you. I mean some women believes in that chalies angels sht. I just feel my girl dont want to be dependent on me cause she is never clingy, needy, not even alittle bit, at first i thought she was just playing hard to get, but now i find out that that is who she is and i feel that she dont give a sht about us, i mean if u feel that a girl doesnt want to depend on you, how would you feel?? that she would walk away the next minute and dont even think about u?? thats how i feel right now, and for the last 3 month i have been putting so much effort in the relationship and geting little in return, sure, i get laid, but as a DJ i really dont care about that. Now i just feel that i dont care about us anymore and i dont reall care about the relationship since she dont care about it.
IT really kills my attraction for her, what would you do in this situation?? i want to be with her and make this relationship work, but i feel that since she dont give a damn, why should i??
what would u guys do?? next her or give her time?

 

[WaterTiger]

So basically...she's the DJ and you are HER beyoch. She's being all cool and detached, making you run around and work on the relationship. That's not fair!

I think you should make her miss you. Spend time with your family, friends, co-workers or by yourself, but not with her. My guess is that she'll come running back to you. If she doesn't, and walks away like you fear, then you don't want her anyway. There are too many other girls who will give you plenty of attention.

I'm independent too, but when I'm dating a guy for 3 months he KNOWS that I am into him and the relationship.

 

[Chemistry]

Doesn't sound like a DJ who's posting this thread...

Honestly, my opinion is that it's good to have a chick who is independant... I don't know about super-super independant and overly selfish, but she needs to have her own sh!t together... only you know where she places in that spectrum... the good thing about an independant chick is that if you hook up in the long term, then you both do so out of your own free will, you do it because the relationship is good for both of you not because you feel that you need somebody as most of the 'needy' chicks do... also, if you're young then it's all about independance and developing who you are, not developing yourself in order to cater for somebody else at that early stage...

Ultimately, I know London very well... I worked out of there for a time and did some things over in the west end and my overall impression of London chicks is that they are independant... not always independant when it comes to paying for sh!t, a notoriously high number have an older married guy who'll pay for an apartment and give them money to keep themselves hot in return for sex occasionally, but they fvck around still, lol...

But if you honestly feel that want a needy chick around you who tries to impose limitation after limitation on you then do you... I think you'll regret it, but remember that you date chicks to find out their suitability, you don't date a chick who's not your type to change her into the perfect woman you've got in your head... no, you NEXT her and get involved with other chicks until you find a chick who has the attributes you want..