"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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indecisiveness of facebook HBs meeting up for dates

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what do you say to a facebook HB you've never met before to meet up if she's indecisive on the phone?

if she's giving you the usual 'i'll let you know..' answers and never does.. how do you force the issue without seeming to pressurizing?

cos you've never met the girl before so the tactics of walking away might not work cos she won't see it as walking away.. maybe 'well he was just some random internet dude, doesn't matter' and she won't be affected by it in the same way as if she met you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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trying to pickup chicks off the internet/facebook is a loser's gamble. Quality (non-slutty) girls will think it's weird/creepy and the ones that do actually meet up with you are at most, average sluts. You're better off talking to girls in person, and asking them for coffee.
 

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surprisingly i seem to have won over this random facebook HB as she's got back to me and has agreed to meet tomorrow.. but i wont hold my breath cos i can imagine that she'll cancel last minute..

we're suppose to go for coffee but is it too risky to suggest a drink after in a more romantic setting?

i have to get back to her now about tomorrow and i was going to say something along the lines of 'if you impress me i might take you for a drink at this nice bar after..'

for a first meeting is it better to leave it as just coffee and split after a while its going good?

cos she's a HB9 hot girl if her pics are to judge by.. i was thinking of just suggesting the bar thing and then not taking her.. that might blow her mind, cos im saying she needs to impress me and the fact i split after coffee will make her feel rejected? or will she pissed she got all dressed up to only go for coffee?
 
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technically she could counter with 'no it's ok i only have half an hour to meet up' or something..
 

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Hey if it's going good you can always go somewhere else afterwards. But only do this if you think you have a chance and like her because you don't want to spend too much money.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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but wouldn't it better to leave if it's going good on the first date as to not to look too keen and make her guessing what the hell just happened?

especially when she's a super hot HB and had guys falling over themselves to be with her.. do i split and leave it a few days make her wonder why i've not..? cos a chick like this probably has never been rejected in her life
 

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I abhor NPUs. So flakey and the false advertising is simply mind blowing.
 

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DonGorgon said:
If they really like how you look they will meet you but they will bring a friend and they will hide and watch you arrive to decide if you are good looking enough.

nah she's coming by herself, even if she does i'll be calling her as i'm coming to the meeting point and im usually few mins late so it's tough for them to spot me before i spot them.

but is it likely she's gona cancel last min from what i told you before?

it's the same girl from my other thread by the way.
 
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