increasing her interest again...

[Hyper2010]

Hi guys

Just a quick one. If a man goes slightly attached or afc on a girl after a couple of months, and he can actually sense her interest in him dropping....

Is it possible for him to reverse this trend by essentially going ghost and making himself unavailable? Will this cause her to miss/crave him again?

Your thoughts please

 

[skinnyguy]

I thought a woman knows within 10 seconds of meeting you if she's going to sleep with you or not.

 

[Jair213]

I thought a woman knows within 10 seconds of meeting you if she's going to sleep with you or not.

thats BS

 

[PlayHer Man]

Ok.. you and all men reading this need to burn this into your brains: THE MINUTE YOU FEAR LOSING A WOMAN IS THE MINUTE YOU HAVE LOST THE GAME.

You should never be in a position where you are trying to "prove your worth" to a woman. NEVER.

The woman must ALWAYS care more than you do. Always, always, always! If you care more than her.. you are in beta fag territory AND by trying to raise your value in her eyes.. you only PROVE how low your value is.

Because why would any man bow and scrape for the approval of a woman unless that woman is BETTER THAN HIM? :trouble:

 

[HyperAnalyze]

Ok.. you and all men reading this need to burn this into your brains: THE MINUTE YOU FEAR LOSING A WOMAN IS THE MINUTE YOU HAVE LOST THE GAME.

You should never be in a position where you are trying to "prove your worth" to a woman. NEVER.

The woman must ALWAYS care more than you do. Always, always, always! If you care more than her.. you are in beta fag territory AND by trying to raise your value in her eyes.. you only PROVE how low your value is.

Because why would any man bow and scrape for the approval of a woman unless that woman is BETTER THAN HIM? :trouble:

This.

You should never to to supplicate her reality by begging for attention or attempting to REVERSE a trend that's going downhill.

Believe in your reality that she should be attracted to you, wanting to see you, and wants to take up your time and space.

 

[Skyline]

In response to OP yes. Going Ghost can spark interest again but it depends on how afc you've gone with her. If its the beginning then it will work most of the time. The middle is a dice roll. The end, almost never.

Also dont make her above you. She should be beneath.

 

[Hyper2010]

Frayze

Guess I'd say the beginning to be honest. She's a busy lady anyhow with a busy life, but I still find myself checking my phone, her facebook ever 30 mind or so to she if she's around. I have certainly got her stuck in my mind, but I havent actually acted on any of these thoughts or impulses yet

 

[user name]

Hi guys

Just a quick one. If a man goes slightly attached or afc on a girl after a couple of months, and he can actually sense her interest in him dropping....

Is it possible for him to reverse this trend by essentially going ghost and making himself unavailable? Will this cause her to miss/crave him again?

Your thoughts please

This is Oneitis - the kiss of death to any potential relationship.

The ONLY cure is to spin the proverbial plates.

Spinning plates raises confidence AND allows your mind to release it's grip on one person which only serves to suffocate the target in question.

 

[Skyline]

Frayze

Guess I'd say the beginning to be honest. She's a busy lady anyhow with a busy life, but I still find myself checking my phone, her facebook ever 30 mind or so to she if she's around. I have certainly got her stuck in my mind, but I havent actually acted on any of these thoughts or impulses yet

Ahhh. I was there many times before.

If you havent acted on those impulses then you're fine for the time being. But that oneitis towards her needs to change because you WILL rationalize that behavior causing you to break your frame.

Your case is co dependence. You need to learn that you dont need anyone but yourself and that a girl will not fix any of your problems. Only you can help yourself truly. Even this forum is just guidance you still have to act on it. A relationship is fun/playful, not serious, not clingy, and shes not your personal therapist.

Ways to prevent co dependence:
-Talk to multiple girls
-Get a job
-Get a passion or hobby
-Set a goal and the requirements for it
-Try and figure out why you're co dependent
-Practice the "prize mentality" mindset