"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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incline barbell bench vs flat barbell bench

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Incline barbell bench: 225 for 5 reps

flat barbell bench: 205 for sets of 5


4 years ago I took every supplement under the sun and was up to 245 for sets of 6 for incline barbell bench. I always did incline bench first followed by either flat barbell or dumbells while i was on the supplements.

I've been off all supplements for 3 years now, but my goddamn incline is stronger than my flat. Lol, i can't understand it.

Just curious if any of you guys have the same thing happen to you. Maybe your incline is better....i dont know.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My incline is stronger than my flat because I train incline harder and heavier than flat.

Its also usually the 1st exercise I do in my chest routine.
 

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Try decline presses as well for a really defined chest
 

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I think some dudes just have a naturally stronger upper-chest. My incline sucks and it shows in my chest development. I've trained it hard and heavy as hell, and I still can't get that "top shelf" look of the men who have seriously defined upper chests. I'm a beast on flat bench (and decline), but I really think a well-built upper chest looks better at the pool.
 

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Front deltoids and your upper chest are better developed or it's just pure nervous system adaptation to you putting more focus on that bar pathway. You adapt to exactly what you do.

Do you do the standing press as well?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Kerpal said:
Is the OHP supposed to work your upper chest? I do it all the time and only feel it in the upper shoulders and triceps.
If you them in the front rather than behind the neck, your upper chest will be slightly involved, especially if you're able to arch your back a little bit. Mainly, it's shoulders and tri's.

Incline barbell and dumbbell presses, and incline flys are the best things for upper chest; for me, however, that's my one body part that is just extremely stubborn and refuses to grow for some reason. We all have one, and that is mine.
 

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If you them in the front rather than behind the neck, your upper chest will be slightly involved, especially if you're able to arch your back a little bit. Mainly, it's shoulders and tri's.
behind the neck presses should be avoided
NEVER arch your back when doing an over head press. Contract your abs and brace the weight with your anterior core NOT your spine.

The bar should end up at the back of the head when fully extended NOT in front. You should be looking straight ahead leaning forwards not leaning backwards, looking up at the bar.
 

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The press does work the clavicular head of the pectoralis major.

You certainly do not lean forward.
 

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by leaning forward i mean standing straight but using your abs to support the weight not the back.
 

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Really, your flat bench should be stronger than your incline. You must have disproportionately strong shoulders (as they are used a lot more on the incline bench than flat bench) or simply have not trained flat bench properly.

However, incline bench is better for adding mass to your chest (for most people anyway) but a weaker flat bench would still be a cause of concern for me because strength is also important if you're going to be muscular.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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