Hmmm....let me give it a shot. All the true Don juans have it right, at first the both of you have the honey moon period in which being in each other's company is almost like being on a drug high. However, we are now older adults and, as men, we can temper out emotions and drown out the noise. Once I do this, you can easily start to pick up on small things here and there (small thing she said that u would normally overlook, small actions, etc..) that u would not have noticed before. You can take those pieces and start to do the math yourself, and before you know it you can have a pretty good read of what the woman is like. But, yes in the beginning it is normally hard to get a good read because they are on their best behavior and you will be brushing aside any minor red flags because of your infatuation. Stay three years and u will definitely have read the woman like a book and have thrown it away in yesterday's garbage