"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

In your opinion, does female high interest hide her true colors?

vinkoch

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2014
Messages
65
Reaction score
3
Age
43
I would think eventually someone's anger issues and other core personality flaws will be revealed. Would you say this happens when IL drops or just when they get tired of hiding them and hope you accept them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

jimmy18

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2010
Messages
244
Reaction score
22
Initially, the hotter ones in particular hide their true feelings (because they are so worshiped by society in general that they need not risk rejection).

This is why you must go after what you want without looking for permission to do so.
 

MOTU

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 29, 2014
Messages
638
Reaction score
72
Location
Houston, TX
Tictac said:
The early stages of a relationship are called limerence.

Look it up.

She's not doing anything that you re not.
Tictac, thanks. That was a new term for me and provided some good reading. Made me think. "You must spread some reputation around..."
 

Outlaw_

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 11, 2013
Messages
116
Reaction score
5
MOTU said:
Tictac, thanks. That was a new term for me and provided some good reading. Made me think. "You must spread some reputation around..."
You stole the words out of my mouth. I've noticed this in the past year & 1/2 since I've been single. I've talked about it with friends. But this just gives me a whole new avenue to research.

You're the man Tictac...repped inded.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Tenacity

Banned
Joined
Jun 23, 2014
Messages
3,890
Reaction score
2,160
I honestly think that a woman's interest level is the most fickle thing on the planet. You have women who hate you that all of a sudden, start flirting with you. Then you have women who have been "in love" and married to you for a decade, that in divorce are trying to slice your neck off.

My approach is to take women who "currently" (as of TODAY) have mild or high enough of interest and just deal with them as long as their fickle a.ss interest is mild or high, as I can usually get out of them the only TRUE value left with any woman and that's sex and companionship. Besides those two things, women are nothing else but a risk management liability in terms of their cost, legal repercussions, potential temporary or permanent STDs, and potential permanent financial damage that they can do to you.

The "book value" of a woman is the lowest it's EVER been in the history of mankind, at least in my opinion.
 

latinnova

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 21, 2014
Messages
294
Reaction score
33
Hmmm....let me give it a shot. All the true Don juans have it right, at first the both of you have the honey moon period in which being in each other's company is almost like being on a drug high. However, we are now older adults and, as men, we can temper out emotions and drown out the noise. Once I do this, you can easily start to pick up on small things here and there (small thing she said that u would normally overlook, small actions, etc..) that u would not have noticed before. You can take those pieces and start to do the math yourself, and before you know it you can have a pretty good read of what the woman is like. But, yes in the beginning it is normally hard to get a good read because they are on their best behavior and you will be brushing aside any minor red flags because of your infatuation. Stay three years and u will definitely have read the woman like a book and have thrown it away in yesterday's garbage
 
Top