"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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in this situation direct or indirect

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short story of my life
7th grade
had a girl approach me ( and 8th grader) and show intrest
i was highly intrested in her but acted REALLY cool and aloof we only talked 2 or 3 times. her approaching me everytime

8th grade
almost a year later i had the biggest crush on her and tried to talk to her online( cuz she was a 9th grader and i didn't go to her school) this time being needy and supplicating and she thought i was annoying so i thought itd be a good idea to spill my guts. i didnt say i loved her though. eventually she deleted me off

9th grade
im back today started my training in september
im buff too now. the only thing i have done with her is eye cotact that lasted a while as i walked by no one broke it
and a hey and she waved
whats holding me back is


I know this is oneitis but im over her so i thought'd be a fun challenge

should i be DIRECT
( im good at direct game) or INDIRECT ( not much experience here)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jeffthechef

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captain underpants said:
I know this is oneitis but im over her so i thought'd be a fun challenge
Ok...that sentence is a paradox haha

anyways...yes...you DO HAVE ONEITIS AND YOU'RE NOT OVER HER AND YOU VIEW IT AS A CHALLENGE ONLY TO JUSTIFY YOUR DESIRE TO GET HER

i've had the same thing too....just get her number...dont ask for it...in person

the problem i think you and i sort of had/have....is that the girl won't respond to ***** approaches...i was going after one of the top girls and i did it through email the first time...way back...

remember..GIRLS ARE WAITING FOR YOU TO BE A MAN
 
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I found out her best friend ( a senior) is a guy she used to hook up with but they arn't now. and there is also this guy she has a crush on who is a senior but he has a girlfriend.
should i aproach anyway
now? this year? or drop it?
indirect?
direct?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jeffthechef

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hmm

here's instructions..

1. You see her
2. you walk up to her.
3. You say hi.
4 you make small talk for less than a minute.
5. you say you have to go and tell her to give you her number and that you'll call her to hang out sometime.

you can meander from those directions but those are generally the steps used...once you get used to aproaching...you'll think of funny and unique ways...but there's the starting point

have fun with it...nothing bad is gona happen
 
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