In the friend zone WITH sex involved

[Sexorcist]

sup guys, haven't been around these parts in awhile....

well reason being is because things were going good until recently... This girl who I've been seeing (we're not going out) for about 4 months now is slowly pushing me into her friend zone. Yesterday, we were talking and having a good time, then we brought up the possiblities of us going out and starting a relationship. So then she hits me with the "I just want to be friends" but Ironically 10 minutes later I managed to bone her. We've been having sex consistently ever since we met. In the beginning I tried to avoid her and didn't really like her, and she was over me... now that I'm starting to have stronger feelings towards her she seems to push me away... It's kind of conflicting and I'm just confused about the whole thing. Lately I've kind of been asking her to hangout alot and i'm with her almost everyday. I know a big rule of thumb about avoiding the friendzone with a chick is to not talk about her ex-boyfriends, and all her problems and buy her a whole bunch of ****, and in the beginning I fell into those traps alot, nowadays I always let her know whatsup and tell her to shutup whenever she talks about other guys, or get pissed when she asks me to buy her stuff. I want her to know that I like her and be able to spend time with her but I don't want to use the whole push/pull thing in order to do it... I just want her to like me, like me, AND be able to get that booty when I want.

help me! thanks guys looking forward to the advice!

 

[Kings_royalty]

In the beginning I tried to avoid her and didn't really like her, and she was over me... now that I'm starting to have stronger feelings towards her she seems to push me away...

What you need to do is go back to what worked in the beginning bro. There is nothing wrong with having strong feelings for a girl, but you need to learn how to control those emotions, keep them under wraps. Show her how you feel when she has 'earned' it or does something nice for you.

Don't get mushy on her or pay her to much attention because you'll continue to push her away instead of drawing her in.

Lately I've kind of been asking her to hangout allot and I’m with her almost everyday.

Stop spending so much time with her. You are killing any attraction that was there by being up her a$$. Go a few days without calling her; give her a chance to miss you.

I want her to know that I like her and be able to spend time with her but I don't want to use the whole push/pull thing in order to do it...

Why not? My advice, try the 'push/pull thing' because what you are doing right now (showing her to much attention) ISN'T working.

 

[Sexorcist]

thanks alot guys.... any other advice?

 

[unorthodox]

Check this out: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16420&highlight=interest+level+scale

My advice improve your self further. It is what you could use regardless if she stays with you or not. You see, there is a principal that states when you push towards people, they push away from you, and when you push away from them, they push towards you. Your case is a classic example buddy. What to do? Just learn about this stuff, just because you have a girl now doesn't mean you should stop investing into learning the art of seduction or the human psychology, you need those things to stay in control, be happy, and most importantely find the right one. I suggest you read Silent Power, http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/results.asp?WRD=silent+power&z=y&r=1&cds2Pid=9481
and also read and watch material by David DeAngelo, no so much double your dating, but his seminar videos are a great help to every body.


Another thing, can you really tell to yourself that she's the right one for you.

 

[Hitman10000]

I think you need time away from this girl, if she were ultimately interested in you, she'd definetely try to contact you in less than 2 weeks.

However, here are some red flags that she's not that into you that you mentioned in your post:

1. She LJBF you.
2. You make yourself too available to her everyday
3. She talks about other dudes
4. You buy her stuff when she asks you to

 

[Warboss Alex]

4. You buy her stuff when she asks you to

Actually, NOT doing that generally results in a kick up the arse.. :nono:

Best way to stop her nagging!