"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hey guys. Well I have been doing well with the ladies lately, but I need some help with this one. Here's the story, last year I was going to a meeting with my college guidance counselor to schedule classes. I got there alittle early and when Im walking up to the sitting area I see a gorgeous and I mean GORGEOUS girl sitting down. I was feeling good that day and just went and sat beside her. We started talking and had a great conversation for about 20 mins. I should have number closed but was thrown off when my counselor came out and said he was ready to see me. I know this is not an excuse and I kick myself everyday for not getting her number. We said our goodbyes and that was that. I don't do much gaming with facebook, but we became friends shortly after that. Pretty much I didn't really talk to her as I was seeing a few girls throughout the year. So now it's this year and I really hadn't talked to her in awhile. I didn't even know if she would remember me so I wasn't sure what to say. Anyway, I ended up messaging her on facebook responding to this comment she said about not seeing a certain video she loved but couldn't find. Well being the DJ that I am lol I knew the video she was talking about and sent it to her in a message just saying "thought you might wanna see this haha" and gave her the link. She responded the next day saying something along the lines of "YES!!! Thank You! :)" So I sent her a message saying no problem and made a quick comment about the video. My question is what should I do next. I wanna ask her out but in reality we have only talked once face to face and that was a year ago. I tried breaking the ice with the message and she seemed happy but Im not sure what to do? Maybe just try to keep the conversation going and maybe see if she wants to meet up sometime or maybe I should invite her to a party or something? I just don't wanna creep her out or anything. I usually am pretty forward but I really see potential with this girl and don't wanna mess it up lol. Thanks for the advice!
 

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Hey bro, your case is simple to rectify. Just text her, ask her out and hang out at a coffee shop. Pick a day. Just do it. Text her, and wait for a response. Make sure you select the day and place.

Need more help? just PM me.
 
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I don't have her number so you think I should ask her out through a message on facebook? Thanks for the help man.
 
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If you send her a message what are you going to say?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't you get it? They want you to be a man and be direct. She's no special flake; specially since she somebody you don't often see.

How about "what's your phone number?", and when you get it, DO NOT text message her to invite her to get together. Call her up and do it by phone after a few minutes of chit chat. Leave a message if she doesn't answer, and don't call back until after the weekend if she doesn't call you back. She gets one more chance, and that's it.
 
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So do you think I should write something like "Give me your number and we should get together sometime" or should I just be like "What's your number" ? I usually don't analyze **** like this but I really like this girl (first mistake I know) and don't wanna be too forward and scare her off. Thanks again!
 
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Ben15 said:
So do you think I should write something like "Give me your number and we should get together sometime" or should I just be like "What's your number" ? I usually don't analyze **** like this but I really like this girl (first mistake I know) and don't wanna be too forward and scare her off. Thanks again!
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The problem is if you keep puzzyfooting around the issue and play it too cautious. Since you want andoveranalyzation, I'll give you one:

"Give me your number and we should get together sometime" is strongly asking her to to commit, right on the spot. Which by email/facebook, unless her interest level is through the roof, she might tell you she has a bf or whatever, even if she doesn't.

When you tell her "What's your phone number", she already knows that you are interested, so you don't need to tell her for what. It is subtle, yet clear why you want it, and she knows. No need to give her the "Hey, I am asking you for your number because if you give it to me, you are commited to going out for coffee with me", that's too direct, so she will be pretty forward with you and most likely blow you off, in her not so direct way.

If she's not willing to give you her phone number, then she is not interested. If she answers with anything but a "yes" or phone number, she is letting you off the hook, rejecting you, in a nice way. Either way, you cut your loses, and stop wasting time with someone without enough interest/attraction for you.

Btw, if she is interested, you need to stop being so careful and analytical, and take action very soon, or she'll loose interest, because women want their men to be strong, foward, direct and go for what they want. If she is not interested, then she won't give you her number or the time, regardless of how cautious and perfect you play it.

You can only win by asking for the number ASAP.
 
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Thanks man I appreciate and your right..its time for me to quit treating her cautiously. Im going for it. I will let you guys know how what happens.
 
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