"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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In need of some advice - 22 year old afc!

ruger2008

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Hi everyone

I'm going to try and keep this as short and easy to understand as possible, as I even feel bad writing this.
I'm 22 years old,pretty good looking,funny and have a cool personality from what other people tell me.Yet I have never had a girlfriend in my life and the last girl I kissed was 9 years ago_Ouch!

Now to be honest, this sucks ass.From the age of 14 to 17 I was very fat and had serious skin issues.I had no friends and was somewhat of a loser.
Things started to get better when I turned 18, much better, I worked hard to lose all the weight and kept everything in order up to now.Here and there I met girls, but nothing really happened.
After coming across all this PUA stuff, I started learning more and more, read many books and decided this will be my break through.It has helped but only marginally.Needless to say it didn't help me no matter how hard I tried, eventually I just gave up.I had many attempts to improve my life, mainly the women issue.Currently, I'm at a point, where I train hard many times during the week, I always catch girls looking at me, when I phone places and theres a receptionist they usually start fooling around after like 2 mins of speaking to them.Most girls I meet think I have a girlfriend. What on earth am I to do?
Has anyone perhaps had a similar issue?
I don't like clubs, I tried many times to improve my game there but I just can't stand it.
I used to go to malls just to speak to women and it just sucked.

Right now I'm prepared to forget everything I learnt about PUA and start from scratch.What is the best way to begin?
It really hurts seeing my friends with girlfriends all the time and I'm just hanging there knowing I could be so much more successful.

What response can I give to a girl if I catch her staring at me?

hope this was not much. But I'm sick of these AFC days and I want to have the success I always wanted.Would appreciate any ideas.

Thx :nervous:

P.s. the worst part is I rip girls off, bust on them, mess them around but still nothing... but I think I might do it too much.
Another thing is, where is the best place to meet women?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dole

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It has helped but only marginally.Needless to say it didn't help me no matter how hard I tried, eventually I just gave up.I had many attempts to improve my life, mainly the women issue.
you where trying too hard and came off as desperate to the girls, thats why it never worked.

Practice with not very attractive females and then as you progress move up the ladder.
 

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ruger2008 said:
Most girls I meet think I have a girlfriend. What on earth am I to do?
Why do they think this?

Or, more importantly, why do you let them think you are not available?
 

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relax with the game, seem liek you forcing too much. Take a break and chill a bit

join team sport or co-ed..etc pratice the hobbies you like and likely you will meet girls with same interest, you will come across as less desperated.

You have common interest with the girls and easier to engage with them. ask them for coffee, movie, hang out....

lightheart, funny and be sexual...and have fun
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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