"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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In need of some advice - 22 year old afc!

ruger2008

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Hi everyone

I'm going to try and keep this as short and easy to understand as possible, as I even feel bad writing this.
I'm 22 years old,pretty good looking,funny and have a cool personality from what other people tell me.Yet I have never had a girlfriend in my life and the last girl I kissed was 9 years ago_Ouch!

Now to be honest, this sucks ass.From the age of 14 to 17 I was very fat and had serious skin issues.I had no friends and was somewhat of a loser.
Things started to get better when I turned 18, much better, I worked hard to lose all the weight and kept everything in order up to now.Here and there I met girls, but nothing really happened.
After coming across all this PUA stuff, I started learning more and more, read many books and decided this will be my break through.It has helped but only marginally.Needless to say it didn't help me no matter how hard I tried, eventually I just gave up.I had many attempts to improve my life, mainly the women issue.Currently, I'm at a point, where I train hard many times during the week, I always catch girls looking at me, when I phone places and theres a receptionist they usually start fooling around after like 2 mins of speaking to them.Most girls I meet think I have a girlfriend. What on earth am I to do?
Has anyone perhaps had a similar issue?
I don't like clubs, I tried many times to improve my game there but I just can't stand it.
I used to go to malls just to speak to women and it just sucked.

Right now I'm prepared to forget everything I learnt about PUA and start from scratch.What is the best way to begin?
It really hurts seeing my friends with girlfriends all the time and I'm just hanging there knowing I could be so much more successful.

What response can I give to a girl if I catch her staring at me?

hope this was not much. But I'm sick of these AFC days and I want to have the success I always wanted.Would appreciate any ideas.

Thx :nervous:

P.s. the worst part is I rip girls off, bust on them, mess them around but still nothing... but I think I might do it too much.
Another thing is, where is the best place to meet women?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It has helped but only marginally.Needless to say it didn't help me no matter how hard I tried, eventually I just gave up.I had many attempts to improve my life, mainly the women issue.
you where trying too hard and came off as desperate to the girls, thats why it never worked.

Practice with not very attractive females and then as you progress move up the ladder.
 

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ruger2008 said:
Most girls I meet think I have a girlfriend. What on earth am I to do?
Why do they think this?

Or, more importantly, why do you let them think you are not available?
 

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relax with the game, seem liek you forcing too much. Take a break and chill a bit

join team sport or co-ed..etc pratice the hobbies you like and likely you will meet girls with same interest, you will come across as less desperated.

You have common interest with the girls and easier to engage with them. ask them for coffee, movie, hang out....

lightheart, funny and be sexual...and have fun
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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