"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In need of motivation/some sort of workout routine

danro

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I'm a college student and throughout high school was always in relatively good shape. Lately I've been developing an interest in MMA and wanted to start training. My main problems at the moment though are: 1. not enough money to begin training in any martial art at the moment. 2. I drink way to much soda and I'm not sure if I'm eating the necessary diet to improve. 3. I'm lazy and unmotivated to work out.

Number 1 will be solved in the Summer when I can work full-time again. 2 and 3 are problems that are going to take a lot of willpower from me. If you could motivate me or schedule some sort of routine for me that works well for beginners that would be great. Tuesdays and Thursdays it is impossible for me to workout though (I have class from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Riviera Paradise

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The hardest thing for me was giving-up not just soda, but high-fructose corn syrup. Do a little googling on that stuff to find out what else besides soda contains it, I was surprised to find out (even bread) what had it.
I got some weights, and I got a set of workout dvd's (P90X), I highly recommend it!
Replace the soda with water...yea, it will taste funny at first. Remember that you have conditioned your palate to EXTREMELY sweet tastes, and now you are trying to cut back on the sweetness.
Pay attention to what you eat: READ LABELS!!! This is where you find out what you are putting in your belly.
Pay attention to HOW MUCH you eat: It is better to eat several (5~6) small meals through the day than to eat 2 or 3 big meals.
Most importantly: HAVE THE RIGHT MENTAL ATTITUDE!!! Realize that you will occasionally slip, we are only human, but always continue forward to your goal!
I have done more than this, but this is how I got started.
 

Throttle

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hit the vault and start reading:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126233

most beginner routines are 3 days per week, so MWF would be perfect for you.

if you don't have motivation it may be a lack of goals. here's some examples of goals that guys bring to this forum:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=141161

here's a guy who worked out for eight months and still wasn't sure what his motivation was. whoops.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=129063

figure out what YOU really want. then come back to us.
 

danro

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I know what I want for the most part. I want to get in good enough shape to start training at a MMA gym in my city. I also want to remain very lean, but pack on a good amount of muscle.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ohsnap

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Minus the money thing, the best way to get motivated is just to get your ass into the gym. You can talk about how you're gonna do it til the cows come home, but the great feeling you get and the added confidence are gonna MAKE you want to go further. When I come out of the gym and my muscles are stretching and bulging, I feel like a MILLION BUCKS and cannot wait to get back in there.
 

Kevin Feng

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I found reading John C. Maxwell really useful when it comes developing routines.

Apply the 21 day principle. The first week when you're developing a routine is always the most difficult because you're brain is forming those new neural pathways.

If you notice, when you drive to work for the first time (say its an hour away). It's pretty long the first time you go, but when you're 8 months in, it really isn't that big of a deal.

Stick it through for 21 days and you'll notice it becoming easier over time. The principle applies to sarging. Your approach anxiety is always difficult to deal with the first several times you go out and the "pain" doesn't really subside but, it does become a lot more manageable to you over time.

-Kevin
 

asamanta

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There are sufficient reasons for me to be happier than before because now I have some knowledge as to how I should approach the task. Thanks to Kevin to an extent for telling the 21 day schedule. Really the lack of motivation or to be precise the eagerness to get things started often makes us lazy to carry on the good work and proceeding in shorter goals does hold the keys to success. Let me see how well I fare now.
 
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