In need of a new start

[HardLeftHook]

I'm a college grad. No job(searching though), Biggest problem right now Is I spend too much time at my house. Because I'm introverted by nature(not really "shy") 85% of the time I'm not lonely, but I know I'm not growing and that being lonely is only going to further destroy me. I don't know where to start. I have a a decent amount of friends in the city where my university was, and a few in my hometown. Through poor luck, hanging out with them hasn't really resulted in meeting women.

I live in LA so Its not there arent any around. I just don't know how to really start when I'm essentially by myself.

 

[RedZone]

You should try to go out by yourself to meet girls. Since your an introvert you might want to start at a place that's not to busy though.

 

[SgtSplacker]

If you just graduated I would focus on myself first. You can move in with your parents for a year so you're not paying rent. Get that job save up some money and buy a car cash. Heck i've seen immaculate Mercedes CLK all pristine leather going for around $15,000 lately, buy some nice clothes, a little gym time under the belt. Then get an apartment and start dating seriously.

The reason why I would build myself up a bit first is because some social circles require a bit of attention and attendance for you to really be integrated into the group. Maybe they are into traveling and all this basically costs money.:rockon:

 

[headFirst]

Everyone keeps saying nice clothes, what do you guys consider nice... Like style, name brand ect..

 

[PlentyOfLove]

Whatever you feel comfortable in. You don't need an Armani jacket to look good, just something that fits, suits your personality and stands out from the crowd. Doesn't hurt if it's stylish, as well, so don't go buying any skate shoes or caps or whatever. Manly and not boyish, stylish but not feminine.

http://www.kinowear.com/blog/spring-and-summer-2012-essentials

Oh, and always dress to impress when you go out to town. First impressions are everything, and usually that one day when you're suffering from a three-day hangover and didn't care to shave or put on a clean t, the woman of your dreams will appear out of nowhere. By then it's too late, and nobody wants to talk to a guy who looks like a hobo (except other hobos, but you won't get a wife out of that bunch).

 

[SgtSplacker]

It's hard for me to explain nice clothes, ask a girl-friend that dresses well or a gay dude is the best thing. If they are cool they will understand you are hetro and not make flaming suggestions...