In LTR, but still wanting other women for sex

[souave_joe]

Guys,
I learned a lot on sososuave a couple of yrs ago, and now I'm really a DJ. I have no problems finding girls for sex, or not. (thank you all!)

In fact - I found a great girl 2 years ago. She's good looking & quite smart. We "click" on so many levels.

But here is a dillema: she's jealous. I like looking at other girls. I also think that having sex with someone else would actually stimulate my libido a lot (and make me enjoy sex with her more). Last year we've been to the Burning Man and that was simply amazing for our love life. Watching beautiful naked ladies all around is definitely stimulating

Recently I was on a party without her. The party turned wild, and all the people got undressed, and started dancing etc. I loved that! But she freaked out when she heard about it And not because I was there without her, but because of the whole idea of a naked party. She said that she's behind that stage in her life, and if I'm not then perhaps we should split.

So the thing is: I think I'm into the group thing / running around naked / etc. She is definitely not. Perhaps in my case it is just a phase. Or perhaps it's just the wa I am (I actually believe that's the way most people are)

What is your advice? I'm not going to split with her, so what else can I do?

I don't imagine having an affair now. I don't like dishonesty, but I think our relationship would actually benefit if I slept with someone else from time to time..

I could try some other scenarios to spice things up.. Watching porn, using my imagination, etc. I could try sex in public places (but hidden)...

What else? Discuss![\B]

 

[Bible_Belt]

If she is jealous, then she is insecure, and that has to have roots in her past and background. Insecurity is just as unattractive to us as it is to women. She has to get over that.

You should get her to like girls. After she does a few chicks, then it is only fair that you make it even.

 

[RMM]

The "I left that behind" comment caught my eye. Sounds like a former slut who wants to refind herself or something, or?

 

[Zarky]

I'm not sure why men feel the need to tell their girlfriends everything they do. Bang other chicks and just keep quiet about it. Your life is not an open book.

 

[L B]

You're not ready to settle down with one girl yet. Do what you have to do to get it out of your system. Better do it during the boyfriend/girlfriend stage then the marriage stage. Also weigh the risk/benefit of doing this because there is a good chance of losing her in the process.

 

[zekko]

You're not ready to settle down with one girl yet. Do what you have to do to get it out of your system. Better do it during the boyfriend/girlfriend stage then the marriage stage. Also weigh the risk/benefit of doing this because there is a good chance of losing her in the process.

That sums it up pretty well. You don't sound like you're ready to commit to one girl. I don't think it's right to lead her to believe that you are and then cheat behind her back.

The only other thing I would say is that Daniel Rose says in his book The Sex God Method that he has one main girlfriend and two girls he fvcks on the side and that they are all happy with the arrangement. Supposedly each girl only screws him because he's so great at it. Sounds whack (and a little trashy) to me, but I suppose it shows it can be done.

 

[2crudedudes]

It doesn't sound like she's gonna go for it. If she's "past that point in her life", it more or less means she's done being a slut, and you're SOL. So, A) lie to her and do what you want or B) settle for what she has to offer and suck it up.

 

[Warrior74]

The "I left that behind" comment caught my eye. Sounds like a former slut who wants to refind herself or something, or?

No its the sluts version of "I've grown up, now I want you to grow up. I really didn't grow up, but I'm trying to shame you into only being with me. I have no other hold on you but sex and threatening to leave you, I hope this works *fingers crossed*"

 

[C-quenced]

Really? I thought this was an issue specifically related to males due to their egos not being able to handle a woman sexing it with another man.

This is only a very small example of gender "equality". It has come a very long way indeed seeing how females can easily keep a beta "in check". I hope I didn't offend any manginas or moralists (not like a give a f*ck in the first place).