"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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one question again guys is it even worth for me to pick up contact when i meet her this summer ? becuse im wondering if its even worth for me to give her another go , dont think i can pull it of this time either.

honest guys what are my chances with this girl after the break up peroid ? 10 % tops or what ?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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common guys can u tell me atleast its impossible so i can leave this girl and move on for ever! ,say that even if i dont talk with her in 5 months she still not gona get intressted in me when we meet this summer ,.
 

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goodfornothing said:
common guys can u tell me atleast its impossible so i can leave this girl and move on for ever! ,say that even if i dont talk with her in 5 months she still not gona get intressted in me when we meet this summer ,.
Dude,it's 6:30 in the morning. What are you doing up so early? Me,well I just got off work bout an half-hour ago. So,you still beating this dead horse. Hmmm. Goodfornothing,I'm sure if you search hard enough you'll find someone on here who'll tell you that it may be possible to still get with this girl. Unfortunately,it won't be me. I only deal in reality. You don't get it man,you really don't get it. You just don't understand. I wish I could help you out man,I really do. I looked back at my previous replies to this thread,and I simply can't outdo myself. I can't say anything better than what I've already said. I remember somewhere where you said that you were going to try some don juan tip called,"Turning a friend into a lover". Well,I guess the fact that you're back here asking for advice with this situation means that plan didn't work out. The more you try with this girl,the more you prove what I and some other posters have already told you a thousand times about the friendzone---there's no way out of it. But don't let us stop you,keep at it.

I remember last year when you said that you were going to spend the winter trying to get this girl. And now,here you are making plans for how you're going to get with her this summer.

All I can say is wow man. Wow.
 

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I was friends with my girl for a while, then we starting sleeping together for 8 or 9 months and then we progressed to now, LTR for over a year. It's possible. You gotta man up and take it in the direction you want it to go.

I didn't read all the replys, just the first couple posts. Maybe this will give you hope.
 

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goodfornothing said:
honest guys what are my chances with this girl after the break up peroid ? 10 % tops or what ?

I'd say 0% tops. :down:


Time to move on, young man. Live and learn from this experience and think of how much emotional energy you've wasted. If you gamble like you play women you should try and stop before you're totally ruined.


Cheers!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Wow how did I miss this thread? I'm in pretty much the exact situation except I got the LJBF a couple of days ago.

Right now I'm thinking of two different options.

1. Tell her that I don't really want to spend time with her just as friends anymore. I can only spend time with her if it's going to be a date and she has to call me. Which most likely means we may never hang out again.

2. Or attempt a freeze out. Obviously just not talking to her doesn't work so what else needs to be done, to make her want the guy?
 

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she wont even pick up when i call lol , guess she hates me , yeah what ever now i atleast know its over and hopefully for me and everyone on here i can now move on.
 

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goodfornothing said:
she wont even pick up when i call lol , guess she hates me , yeah what ever now i atleast know its over and hopefully for me and everyone on here i can now move on.
Ohhhh no. No,no no no no. You're not going to fool me this time. After all the craziness you've been through trying to get this girl,you expect us to believe that you're just going to give up over a missed phone call? Come on man,give us more credit than that. That's an insult to our intelligence. What...you giving up so soon? It's only been what,a year and a half/two years? And now your just throwing in the towel? You say that you NOW know it's over. Really. Well what finally brought you to this conclusion? I mean it's not like you're experiencing anything that the forum hasn't already told you.

All that time wasted. Time that can't be recovered. And what do you have to show for it? I'm sorry man,but I don't believe you.

I do hope I'm wrong,but for some reason,I get the feeling that this just isn't over with.
 

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Ohhhh no. No,no no no no. You're not going to fool me this time. After all the craziness you've been through trying to get this girl,you expect us to believe that you're just going to give up over a missed phone call? Come on man,give us more credit than that. That's an insult to our intelligence. What...you giving up so soon? It's only been what,a year and a half/two years? And now your just throwing in the towel? You say that you NOW know it's over. Really. Well what finally brought you to this conclusion? I mean it's not like you're experiencing anything that the forum hasn't already told you.

All that time wasted. Time that can't be recovered. And what do you have to show for it? I'm sorry man,but I don't believe you.

I do hope I'm wrong,but for some reason,I get the feeling that this just isn't over with.
and to be honest i hope she hates me then atleast she feels something for me so all this was not a waste of time :)
 

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:eek: :eek: :eek:

this guy is so sad :eek: :eek:

after all said and done, you are still hoping, for some feeling from her??:confused:

in your case "no contact" is for your own protection..when you do "no contact", there should be no hope or any thought whatsoever about her..it's in the past..move on..:trouble:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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