"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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In love with co-worker

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So, im in love with this girl I work with. Im 21 and she is 22. I started a new job about 9 months ago, and it was her job to train me up etc, and as we sat opposite eachother we started to get on well and really hit it of as mates. At the time I was in a relationship and didn’t really look at her as someone I fancied. But as I was breaking up with my ex and getting over her, I really connected with me collegue, I spoke to her about how things was with my ex etc and she listened and gave me advice.

Since then, we meet up from time to time and go for a drink or whatever… just as mates. And Every minute I spend with her I feel myself falling for her more and more.

But here is the problem… she is engaged and living with her partner. All though at first this seems like a rather big problem, I don’t think it is. You see, over the last few months she has become increasingly unhappy in her relationship and even moved back to her parents house for a week to "get away" from her problems. During that week we went out and spent a lot of time together, and I was just there for her when she needed me, listening to her problems etc.

Like I said we get on really well, and she has admitted that im the type of guy she would usually go for and that her current boyfriend is the complete opposite of what she likes in a man. I obviously havent told her what I think about her, but it should be quite easy to see that I do like her. I mean I flirt with her (as she does me) and drop suttle hints here and there. Generally getting a laugh in return.

So where do I go from here?? Went she returned home last week, she said that she is gonna see how things go with him and give it a month or so. She told me last night that the last week was worse than b4 she moved out, and if it wasn’t for the fact that they live together etc she would have finished it buy now. I've no doubt in my mind that they will brake up sooner or later. But what do should I do for now??

Perhaps I should also mention that I had a short spell with one her best mates. Probably not the wisest things to do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Get in there with her. She needs her mind making up over her current AFC loser of a boyfriend. Help her do that. Tell her you like her.
 

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Man, you seriously can't find another girl besides your coworker that has a partner?? Come on.... does any read the required material in the boot camp anymore?

Let me guess you, must be a man of faith. Love at first sight n shyt. This site has gone to the dumps. At least the info is still there for review.

Get some balls, if there's a connection talk to her before you attack her and act suprised when she slaps you for kissing her when she's engaged. If you've been making the right moves and she feels you, she'll tell you. If not, just wait for her to break up with him if she's really connected with you the way you think she is..... huh! But why hasn't she yet?
 

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Originally posted by Sexual
Man, you seriously can't find another girl besides your coworker that has a partner?? Come on.... does any read the required material in the boot camp anymore?

Let me guess you, must be a man of faith. Love at first sight n shyt. This site has gone to the dumps. At least the info is still there for review.

Get some balls, if there's a connection talk to her before you attack her and act suprised when she slaps you for kissing her when she's engaged. If you've been making the right moves and she feels you, she'll tell you. If not, just wait for her to break up with him if she's really connected with you the way you think she is..... huh! But why hasn't she yet?
im not saying im putting my life on hold and not interesting in other women. She's just a girl i like... who aint the easy target. a bit of a challenge, which i like.

Gets a bit boreing knocking the same old sh*t week in week out. wheres the fun in pulling the same type of bird every week. The girl at work offers me a challange.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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