in love with a teacher, need advice

[Halmir]

Hello,
I study japanese here in my city, and the teacher is really beautiful, smart, really a good person, she is 2 years older than me, but I'm a little affraid cuz of the status "teacher and student", I know it's just a language school, it's not like when u are a kid and fall in love with a teacher 30 years older than u heh, but I'm still a little confused about how to approach her without scary or make that "bad feeling" around if everything goes wrong..
So, any advices?? Next week is her birthday, and I was thinking about give something.. but I still have no idea about what to give hehe, suggestions?? I was thinking about just give something simple.. just to go with calm and see how everything is going..

well, thanks for any advice

Halmir

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Id say it depends on what kind of school this is. If this is just a small thing then go for it, if its some big buisness then I dont think you have a chance because shell probably want to keep a certain level of professionality.

 

[mattathensga]

I'd at least wait until the class is almost over, don't want to make it a difficult situation for each of you, Plus, what if she isn't interested in you, or if she takes personal/ professional offense ( maybe she'll think you're doing it for grades, or whatever, to gain the teachers side of her, not the personal side of her) but, if you have the right approach, it may be feasible to pull her now... I've dated a few teachers, its gonna be hard for you to pursuade her while you're her student... she is a professional, and prolly takes her job, teaching, very serious... plus many schools require teachers to sign a contract that they won't become involved with their students...

I'd approach it like this... test her. she if she holds eye contact, and the usual "approach" techniques you use... then ask her out for coffee, something social, yet still within the confines of the teacher/student boundaries.. ask for her to tutor you or something, just get her out of the class room, and onto more familiar turf for yourself.. it'll build your confidence, and break down the status of "teacher" "student".... and get her to see you more as a person her own age...someone she might date... hope this helps... happy hunting!!

 

[DJ4Real]

Call her a professor or instructor, anything over highschool is called professor or instructor. I mean, when I saw the name of your post "in love with a teacher, need advice" I had to look at your age, lol. But, anyways, I've never really "had a crush" on any of my instructors. But nonetheless, your instructor is still female, so most of the same rules still apply. Either you can be intelligent and wittty, and make funny but intelligent remarks to your instructor while she lectures, so she'll recognize you for you witty humor. Or, you can be intelligent, but quiet, keeping a little bit of eye contact (be sure she looks away first) before you break eye contact. This is weird because you see her every class (everyday?)..I'm sure you see her often, therefore, I'd mix up between being talkative and being quiet, to be honest with ya. If you talk too much, you'll be a "class clown" but if you are too quiet, she won't notice you. But if you blend it right, she'll notice you, even when you're quiet (in hopes that you'll say something), but sometimes, don't say anything. But, to get on a date with her, find out if she's single. If she isn't single, don't be angry or sad, just go with the flow. But if she isn't single, tease her, make her notice you, be charming, and be (****y and funny). I'm telling you now, there is no way that this will be "easy", but nonetheless, it can happen, so go for it.

Good Luck

 

[Halmir]

thanks for the replies

just to make the things more clear it's a small language school, there's just 4-6 students per class, I see her every saturday, sometimes I see her in the middle of week, I'm 21 years old and she is 23, and from what I know, she is single
Last semester I worked as a teacher in that school too, I taught manga (japanese comics) for kids there, but then I ran a little out of time, so I wanted just to study japanese there and stopped to work.
well, I'll try to go with calm and see what happen thanks

 

[S-lemond]

hahahahaha

 

[DonJuanMonk]

someone's got yellow fever.