In general if a female is bad at text responding, do you start to do the same??

[tomwesten27]

Meaning if you meet a girl that your eventually looking to date, and she is just in general a very brief short text responder, do you match her at the same level to get her chasing you?

Example:

I met this girl through a mutual friend. She lives a bit away from where I do and is a bit of a tom boy, like one of the guys but an attractive girl. Not on her phone all the time, seems to respond very short and brief during the day but I still hear from her:

Me: Hey whats going on, what you up to today?
Her: in the gym
Me: Nice blah blah (insert question here)

She will then not respond to my question but a few hours later send me a photo of her saying like "miss you lets skype tonight" etc.

Basically I realized over a week if I call, text w.e most of the time I get a very brief response or a response that has nothing to do with my question like a picture of her at the beach, or a picture of her out to dinner with her dad saying "wish you were here with me eating!" With out fail she always calls me when she is home from work and either facetimes me or want to skype.

I am trying to understand...do I match her on her level of communication? Cut back big time? The other day she texted me in the afternoon:

Her: no good morning txt?
Me: you can text me too you know lol, works swamped
Her: I was waiting for your handsome self to text me!!

Why would she wait for ME to text her first? lol

Please advise

 

[om1xr]

To the point:
1-your text game sucks.
2-make your intentions clear because if you keep doing this you will end up in the friendzone if you are not in there already.
3- get to the point and ask her out and set a meeting with a specific time and place.
4- make your texting more playful and creative and stop with the morning texts and the how are you texts.

btw stop trying to think of girls or talk to girl logically, you will go nuts. use your masculinity and fvck her emotions, build some rapport, be sexual and you know the rest!

 

[gravityeyelids]

Have you slept with this chick yet?

Some chicks are just busy and/or dont feel the need to text all the time. I mean if she is sending you sh!t like "i miss you" and calling you handsome...then i'm pretty sure you're okay. That's not friendzone texting there. But in response to your question, Yes.

However, she's gonna notice if you SUDDENLY stop texting her much at all. Taper it off a bit. And if she asks about it, say something like "im not big on texting, i'd rather talk to someone face to face". If she gives you sh!t for it, change the conversation.

But yea, you're text game is lacking. I would read Braddock's Guide to Text and Phone Game. Good sh!t. Until then, keep the texting to a minimum. Just use it primarily for logistics and to set up dates.

 

[tomwesten27]

More Info

Unfortunately the scenario is I met her through a really close female friend of mine. She grew up with this girl. She sent this girl a photo of me and she thought I was "really hot" and we have been talking for about 2 weeks now.

I am going up north to where she lives to see family but to also see her in 4 weeks times.

1) She is a plane ride away (2 hr plane ride)
2) I understand realistically nothing can really come out of this unless I move up north.

I really enjoy talking to her, we are on the same page with a lot of things. We have both openly said how attracted we are to each other and how we want to date (if the distance doesn't last) She is really looking forward to seeing me in a few weeks but really...what could I get out of it besides a lay?

What do you guys think?

 

[gravityeyelids]

Unfortunately the scenario is I met her through a really close female friend of mine. She grew up with this girl. She sent this girl a photo of me and she thought I was "really hot" and we have been talking for about 2 weeks now.

I am going up north to where she lives to see family but to also see her in 4 weeks times.

1) She is a plane ride away
2) I understand realistically nothing can really come out of this unless I move up north.

I guess you can say I enjoy talking to her, we are on the same page with a lot of things. She is really looking forward to seeing me in a few weeks but really...what could I get out of it besides a lay?

What do you guys think?

I think in general..it's a waste of your time. It's good that you're already going up there to see family and not just making a dedicated trip out of it to see her. Sure, go for the lay. Be aware that long distance things suck and are just plain non-do-able. You've got nothing to lose by seeing her and escalating quickly.

You should probably not be texting this girl like she's your GF though...but i mean one way to look at it is that she is planning to bang you when you come up so she wants to establish some semblance of comfort so she doesn't feel like a slvt when she randomly bangs some dude who then leaves right after. It helps that she has a friend that knows you. This, combined with the fact that she's been texting you for a bit can mean that you're a-okay to go for the lay.

Keep in mind that a high quality woman would not be sending stuff like "i miss you" on a daily basis to some guy she's only met like once or twice.

Not to be an a$$, but it's pretty ridiculous to say you're both really "attracted to each other and how we want to date" when you guys have had almost no time in person. You are not going to date this girl.Dont be ridiculous. She's a 2 hour plane ride away from you. Have some self-respect. You have options that are closer.

My advice: cool it on the texting, reframe her in your mind as some girl you're going to sleep with and hang out with for a day and then go back to your normal life, not as a romantic interest. In the next two weeks, go out in your own town and keep gaming other girls and dont worry so much about her. You can text her once in a while...i mean don't be rude and ignore her. But make it known that you have a life outside of her and have things to be busy with..as she is doing. Then, go up there, bang her, come back here, tell us how it was, and then forget about her and game other girls. Go get em tiger

 

[tomwesten27]

I think in general..it's a waste of your time. It's good that you're already going up there to see family and not just making a dedicated trip out of it to see her. Sure, go for the lay. Be aware that long distance things suck and are just plain non-do-able. You've got nothing to lose by seeing her and escalating quickly.

You should probably not be texting this girl like she's your GF though...but i mean one way to look at it is that she is planning to bang you when you come up so she wants to establish some semblance of comfort so she doesn't feel like a slvt when she randomly bangs some dude who then leaves right after. It helps that she has a friend that knows you. This, combined with the fact that she's been texting you for a bit can mean that you're a-okay to go for the lay.

Keep in mind that a high quality woman would not be sending stuff like "i miss you" on a daily basis to some guy she's only met like once or twice.

Not to be an a$$, but it's pretty ridiculous to say you're both really "attracted to each other and how we want to date" when you guys have had almost no time in person. You are not going to date this girl.Dont be ridiculous. She's a 2 hour plane ride away from you. Have some self-respect. You have options that are closer.

My advice: cool it on the texting, reframe her in your mind as some girl you're going to sleep with and hang out with for a day and then go back to your normal life, not as a romantic interest. In the next two weeks, go out in your own town and keep gaming other girls and dont worry so much about her. You can text her once in a while...i mean don't be rude and ignore her. But make it known that you have a life outside of her and have things to be busy with..as she is doing. Then, go up there, bang her, come back here, tell us how it was, and then forget about her and game other girls. Go get em tiger

Its exactly what I needed to hear. It makes sense why she is saying things as if we are dating because when we do meet in person, sleeping she won't feel as she is being a slvt...good point!

Thanks for being blunt with me. I hate to say it but sometimes I am a hopeless romantic...I feel like I am in the movies sometimes and how I am going to meet the girl of my dreams etc etc. yet she is 2 hours away by plane.....lets be real....its gonna be just a lay. and nothing more.

I will keep you posted, thanks!

 

[VikingKing]

Your treating her like she is a committed, well behaved girlfriend. But your not getting any sex. Big no no.

Don't be a pseudo boyfriend for her.

She just likes all the attention you give her, it makes her feel validated and boosts her confidence. She is not committed to you.