In denial right now...

[Mr. Wise]

A female I was dating over a month ago got distant on me. She did however go out with me everytime I asked her even after that. She also always answered her phone, emails, texts promptly in the past too.

Well I've been texting her off and on to "keep in touch" and last night was her birthday. I texted her to notify her to check her email tonight (last night) because I was going to email her from my parents house congratulating her. She responded with an "ok, I will". I did email her asking if she'd like to go out sometime with me at the end of the mail. I haven't gotten a reply and it's the next day. She's always prompt so my mind KNOWS that she's no longer interested in me and doesn't have the heart to tell me but my brain in denial says she's doesn't want to come across as desperate to act since I haven't been in much contact with her lately. It's sickening but that's the reality of it.

 

[wjh]

Sickening?

She's just not very interested in you.

You may have pushed affection that didn't exist - a common AFC mistake.

Don't let it eat you up - let it motivate you and your endeavors. Don't be bitter.

Is she the only girl you were seeing? Have you been actively approaching many women?

Do you see yourself as the prize? Do you constantly try to do "things" to win a girl over?

Where do you see yourself lacking? Do you see your self lacking anything?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Only talk to women - never text them!!!

You can gauge interest better in person and through voice!!

Only have a convo for the purpose of seeing her!!

 

[Interceptor]

This is the reality of casual dating, Mr Wise.

Please pay attention to your namesake, and guard your precious resources.

I hate to say it, but it is neediness, man.

You have to get that handled.

Dude, I always get that feelignin my gut when I recognize it, and I see it here

Do yourself a favor, and pay attention to your own well being.
You need it.

You must let go of expecting certain attitudes and behaviors from peoeple.

You cant expect love and afection, you can only cherish it and appreciate when a person willingly gives it to you.

Mr Wise, be good to yourself even if she won't.

you're a good person, but you need to get your internal compass and your correct view of the value of your own resources in perspective.

Stay strong.
Work on your dreams, work on your mission.

Maintain the love in your heart for yourself, and for the deserving woman who WANTS to be in your life with you.

Don't waste your precious resources, Wise.

Dude, it's ok. You will get through this, and you will learn.
Motivate yourself.
Find that inner strength..because you MUST.
Unfortunately, it is not simply an afterthought or luxury.

It is a real life necessity.

Do not get bitter, sad, or depressed.
Own your emotions, accept them, embrace them./ But do not allow yuorself the luxury of collapsing into them.

Look forward to the future.
Becaseu if you continue to work on yourself, gettign stronger, gaining wisdome, and actually forgivenessa nd compassisn, you will be in a much ebtter place, a much better perspective, and a much better Partner for that dream woman you want to meet one day.

IF anything, Wise..do it for HER.
The woman you really WANT in your lfie.

And if anything , do it in spite of this woman who has low IL.

Work on yourself, and stay focused on YOUR Life, not hers.
You don't own her. She doesn't OWE you.
She is not obligated to anything, nor any duty.
She's not your wife or GF.

Stay strong. Stay focused.

 

[wjh]

Interceptor reigns supreme.

 

[Mr. Wise]

Hey thanks guys, and especially Interceptor for that uplifting and informative post - WOW! I'll definitely save it.

I'm bummed but won't be for very long. The thing is that she's always been good to me - she just doesn't have the heart to disappoint me. Whatever, I'll live and be stronger for it.

BTW, things are already looking up for me as I've taken on a healthy lifestyle since New Years as a resolution. I'm nearing or am at 9-10% bodyfat - working out everyday with either weights or cardio and eating a clean 6 or 7 small meals a day. I'm pretty cut right now as a matter of fact. I don't think this chick knows about this transformation I've made in the past 9 weeks - which actually started a couple of weeks before New Years but not seriously until Jan 1st. Yippee! That six pack is already there but a little blurry - not defined enough. One more month of cutting should do it. I've been getting compliments from a lot of people male and female. This is one reason I've not been posting regularly but do pop in from time to time. I'm busy on the bodybuilding and fitness sites.

No worries, I'll make it through this chick for sure. Thanks again guys, I'll be here learning and most of all applying the information out there.