The_Lifter
Don Juan
Go out maybe?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
In college, how do I meet girls?
- Thread starter ssj245
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
College chicks are wh*res. If you don't have the balls to approach any at random (understandable since you are on this site), just keep this in mind: all it takes is a combination of alcohol and less than an hour of chit chat for them to spread their legs for you. Yes, that means even your sorry beta male a$$ can easily get some in college. Once they're even slightly buzzed, they all start craving for a c*ck to be sliding in and out of them, and if you're not going to provide it then someone else sure as hell will.
Let me sum that up if you don't understand:
If you are capable of...
A) using your legs to walk yourself into a party that isn't a total ****fest
B) opening up your mouth and pouring alcohol down your throat to lower your AFC inhibitions
...then there is a 70% chance that anyone you talk to with a vagina between their legs will at least be buzzed.
Now, if you can...
C) use your eyes to look for a female you can envision putting your penis inside of
D) use your legs to walk over/sit down next to her
E) open up your mouth and speak english
F) flirt with her for a good 30 minutes to an hour while she's getting more and more intoxicated
...I promise you that you will find a girl somewhere in there that will want you to f*ck the sh!t out of her as soon as you two are alone.
If you still find yourself unable to approach a chick even when you're sh!tfaced, then you obviously don't need puss right now. You need a shrink.
Let me sum that up if you don't understand:
If you are capable of...
A) using your legs to walk yourself into a party that isn't a total ****fest
B) opening up your mouth and pouring alcohol down your throat to lower your AFC inhibitions
...then there is a 70% chance that anyone you talk to with a vagina between their legs will at least be buzzed.
Now, if you can...
C) use your eyes to look for a female you can envision putting your penis inside of
D) use your legs to walk over/sit down next to her
E) open up your mouth and speak english
F) flirt with her for a good 30 minutes to an hour while she's getting more and more intoxicated
...I promise you that you will find a girl somewhere in there that will want you to f*ck the sh!t out of her as soon as you two are alone.
If you still find yourself unable to approach a chick even when you're sh!tfaced, then you obviously don't need puss right now. You need a shrink.
Yeah
Well thank you for those who gave constructive critisicm. And for those that didnt, F@ck Off. But I dont go to a 'computer school' I go to a COMMUTER school, where there are no dorms. I hate computers.
Plus I tried doing the drink thing, and when I drink Im still scared to talk to females, I tried getting myself piss drunk, becuase I thought I ddint have enough in me, but after 14 shots of taquilla it didnt help.
Lol I dont know what to do.
I need like somebody to be with me physically to guide me and baby me out of this crap and make me alpha. Maybe I coud pay some one
Well thank you for those who gave constructive critisicm. And for those that didnt, F@ck Off. But I dont go to a 'computer school' I go to a COMMUTER school, where there are no dorms. I hate computers.
Plus I tried doing the drink thing, and when I drink Im still scared to talk to females, I tried getting myself piss drunk, becuase I thought I ddint have enough in me, but after 14 shots of taquilla it didnt help.
Lol I dont know what to do.
I need like somebody to be with me physically to guide me and baby me out of this crap and make me alpha. Maybe I coud pay some one
Melvin
Don Juan
ssj245 said:
ssj245:
The problem with commuter/junior college/community college, is that it's usually a school people go to because it's local to where they live. The problem with the school being local is, probably 95% of the females have no reason to want to meet people because they're around their friends whenever they leave school and go home. The guys you see walking around with hot girls, I'd almost guarantee they knew them from outside of school, prior to ever attending.
At a University it's completely different. There's a 10,000 times as many females than at commuter/junior college/community college. 90% of the students there know NO ONE, and the campus is probably 300+ miles from there hometown if not more. As a result, people are more accepting to cold approaches because no one likes to be alone. The environment is completely different, there's tons of partying, tons of drinking, and tons of horny coeds who are away from their parents and living on their own for the first time in their lives. This is the perfect environment for hooking up. This doesn't mean you still won't have to put in some work, but once you get the hang of it, you should have no problem meeting new females everyday.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
hm...
This blows.
I just came back from a house party and I drank some and smoked some weed too. It was fun, there about five girls and six guys there so it was just a normal party/chillen.
So yeah Im buzed and I make some conversation with three of the girls for about a minute and we laugh and joke, as we are all sitting on a log smoking together.
Then everybody leaves and its just me and this hot chick. Im sitting hey let me use some kino. SO i talk to her about a few things for about a minute or two. Then I ask her "Hey you want a shoty" (thats when you get really close into someones face and blow smoke for a harder hit) So my hands touch her face and I just give her a smile and a look deep into her eyes, but she then pulls back before, because our friends came back but she was already moving back maybe like three seconds of total contact. So it was nothing really. So then my friends are like "You know what this means, your going to have to give him your number" and she says "What is this a three way team, you each helping each other" I just looked at her and just said "ahhh.. No (shook my head)" THen my friends say lets go smoke anohter joint and we do. After I come back, I go up to this girl and say "hey arent you forgetting something" (I take my cellphone out and hold out) she says "No"
I figure she is high or drunk and she doesnt know, so ten mintes later Im watching tv and she is sitting next to me for like two minutes and Im just talking to her for about a minute and Im getting tired and I say
"Hey are you going to give me your number" she says "Ahh...I dont give numbers to stran...wait well I just dont know you I wont call you strange"
I said "Well how do you except that to change without your number in my hand" she said "I dont know, maybe arrange a meeting where we accedentily bump into each other" I said "I doubt that" and I never said anything after that and she didnt either. Wtf?
This really sucked, and there where some other girls there and I tried starting convos but they werent attentive or show any intrest. I dressed very nicely and I spoke in my most alpha voice, and I was confident, Idk.
Im trying to not let it affect my confidence but it really is starting to.
This blows.
I just came back from a house party and I drank some and smoked some weed too. It was fun, there about five girls and six guys there so it was just a normal party/chillen.
So yeah Im buzed and I make some conversation with three of the girls for about a minute and we laugh and joke, as we are all sitting on a log smoking together.
Then everybody leaves and its just me and this hot chick. Im sitting hey let me use some kino. SO i talk to her about a few things for about a minute or two. Then I ask her "Hey you want a shoty" (thats when you get really close into someones face and blow smoke for a harder hit) So my hands touch her face and I just give her a smile and a look deep into her eyes, but she then pulls back before, because our friends came back but she was already moving back maybe like three seconds of total contact. So it was nothing really. So then my friends are like "You know what this means, your going to have to give him your number" and she says "What is this a three way team, you each helping each other" I just looked at her and just said "ahhh.. No (shook my head)" THen my friends say lets go smoke anohter joint and we do. After I come back, I go up to this girl and say "hey arent you forgetting something" (I take my cellphone out and hold out) she says "No"
I figure she is high or drunk and she doesnt know, so ten mintes later Im watching tv and she is sitting next to me for like two minutes and Im just talking to her for about a minute and Im getting tired and I say
"Hey are you going to give me your number" she says "Ahh...I dont give numbers to stran...wait well I just dont know you I wont call you strange"
I said "Well how do you except that to change without your number in my hand" she said "I dont know, maybe arrange a meeting where we accedentily bump into each other" I said "I doubt that" and I never said anything after that and she didnt either. Wtf?
This really sucked, and there where some other girls there and I tried starting convos but they werent attentive or show any intrest. I dressed very nicely and I spoke in my most alpha voice, and I was confident, Idk.
Im trying to not let it affect my confidence but it really is starting to.
I see where he's coming from. If you're not in situations with lots of friends or ways to BE introduced, some serious sarging is necessary. In college it's very hard to get laid if you're... suppose out of the college area in a one room one bath. I first came to college with three roommates right across the street from the school and got laid many times within a month, now I'm aiming (with my intense schedule) for like three dates a month.
It's like punching myself in the balls but since I have another fall session after this until I get to the university campus, I'm thinking of student government (ouch) to meet girls...
It's like punching myself in the balls but since I have another fall session after this until I get to the university campus, I'm thinking of student government (ouch) to meet girls...
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
Wow I need to learn how to read again......ha ha ha
Sorry about the computer school sh*t.......late nights......
there was only 11 people there....a party has got to have at least 20-30 minimum
Ok now that we have that straight...
about your chica....you forced it and she wasn't feelin it.....you should have done more coversation....get her to know you better especially in such a small situation. She probably wasn't in a "I want to meet a guy" party girl mood.She was just hangin out.....
Just relax more in those small get togethers.....get interested in the other person as opposed to just wanting to get into there pants.....
:rockon:
Sorry about the computer school sh*t.......late nights......
Firtst off ......calling a get together a party :kick:
there was only 11 people there....a party has got to have at least 20-30 minimum
Ok now that we have that straight...
about your chica....you forced it and she wasn't feelin it.....you should have done more coversation....get her to know you better especially in such a small situation. She probably wasn't in a "I want to meet a guy" party girl mood.She was just hangin out.....
Just relax more in those small get togethers.....get interested in the other person as opposed to just wanting to get into there pants.....
:rockon:
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
-show up class early and chat to whoever is there about homework then change the subject
- go to orienations and college tutorials
- Sit with random ppl at the cafe
- realize what a gift it is when u are paired with a hottie if there are groups
-library
- if your college has a place to sit off in the hallway, sit there, read the paper, whatever
- the bus stop where people have to wait for the bus to come with nothing else to do
- JOIN CLUBS
- go to social events like if there is a gathering for w/e...even if u think it will suck there is bound to be at least ONE honey there or fat ugly girl who is friends with one
- go to orienations and college tutorials
- Sit with random ppl at the cafe
- realize what a gift it is when u are paired with a hottie if there are groups
-library
- if your college has a place to sit off in the hallway, sit there, read the paper, whatever
- the bus stop where people have to wait for the bus to come with nothing else to do
- JOIN CLUBS
- go to social events like if there is a gathering for w/e...even if u think it will suck there is bound to be at least ONE honey there or fat ugly girl who is friends with one
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
When i used to go to OCC (community college) years ago, there were so many fine women walking around it wasn't even funny. In fact it was downright ridiculous. I have not found an easier or better environment to meet women period than school. There are several ways to meet women in school.
1. Study groups
When I was in college, the first thing I would do is talk to a couple of classmates and get their contact information so I could call someone if I missed class or form a study group for my more intense classes. Do this and if there are good looking women in your class, invite them to your study group. It's easy and rejection won't happen due to the context.
2. Know Your Stuff in Class
If you actually know what's going on in your classes, the women will seek you out because you are the smart guy in class. Take advantage of that.
3. University Union/Library/Cafeteria
What I used to do was sit in a high traffic area around noon in either of these 3 areas, take out a book and some food and wait for a woman to sit down next to me, then start a conversation. It doesn't get easier then that.
4. Make Friends
If you make friends in school, they will have friends and some of them will be women.
To the OP: Do you go to a technical or engineering school? If that's the case, I can see why it would be difficult.
1. Study groups
When I was in college, the first thing I would do is talk to a couple of classmates and get their contact information so I could call someone if I missed class or form a study group for my more intense classes. Do this and if there are good looking women in your class, invite them to your study group. It's easy and rejection won't happen due to the context.
2. Know Your Stuff in Class
If you actually know what's going on in your classes, the women will seek you out because you are the smart guy in class. Take advantage of that.
3. University Union/Library/Cafeteria
What I used to do was sit in a high traffic area around noon in either of these 3 areas, take out a book and some food and wait for a woman to sit down next to me, then start a conversation. It doesn't get easier then that.
4. Make Friends
If you make friends in school, they will have friends and some of them will be women.
To the OP: Do you go to a technical or engineering school? If that's the case, I can see why it would be difficult.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
El MonoLoco said:
That is so money. When I was in school, I would always be so shocked when a smoking hot chick in my class would come up and talk to me before or after class due to the fact that I would volunteer and participate in class. It happened all the time.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Women tend to "date up" in that they date older guys. It's hardest as a freshmen, but then it only gets easier each year. If you can find a girl who is a year younger than you and going through what you did last year, that is golden. Her anxiety over the newness combined with your confidence and experience is the perfect combination for atttraction.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dazed_and_Confused_(movie)
what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dazed_and_Confused_(movie)
what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age
JHeights83rd
Don Juan
commuter college
Hey whats up im in college too (freshman). I have dorms. But look, they say college is the easiest place to get some ass. This is only partially true. Even though theres 10 times more available girls (horny), if you dont have game, youll just get 10 times the rejection.
But anyway, you go to commuter college, how big is that?
How often do you see strangers again? Your situation is similar to our high school/middle school situation in NYC. Someone said earlier, girls already have their lives going outside of school, this is true, they have less motivation for meeting guys in different ways. What you have to do is talk to girls that you see on some type of consistent basis. Sprinkle a little game then let it marinate.
Trust me, you cannot just approach a girl, randomly, start talking to her, then ask for her #. She doesnt feel like she knows you well enough to give you her # in that type of situation. (She would compare how well she knows her friends from outside school to how well she knows you.) Have a good convo with her, then end it, and let her wonder about you for a little bit. After you see her for like 5 times or so, and she enjoys your convo, then ask for her #. And chill out on the kino, stop forcing it on her, you dont ****in know her, let it happen naturally. Let her wonder if youre interested or not. When you flat out, ask for her # and/or put your hand around her, that shows that right away your blatantly interested in ****ing her right away, when you have all the time in the world to know eachother. Thats needy and afc. After shes interested in you and your convo, it wont matter that she has friends outside school.
avoid any girl thats with a guy or guys. Youre just blocking by trying to spit game there. girls in groups are cool, but the key is interesting compelling convo + pour on the game + let it marinate. If she tells you she has a man or something, since you didnt show any blatant interest, you can just retract and treat her like a friend. Ok i hope i helped you out with my (+ some of friends' experiences)
Hey whats up im in college too (freshman). I have dorms. But look, they say college is the easiest place to get some ass. This is only partially true. Even though theres 10 times more available girls (horny), if you dont have game, youll just get 10 times the rejection.
But anyway, you go to commuter college, how big is that?
How often do you see strangers again? Your situation is similar to our high school/middle school situation in NYC. Someone said earlier, girls already have their lives going outside of school, this is true, they have less motivation for meeting guys in different ways. What you have to do is talk to girls that you see on some type of consistent basis. Sprinkle a little game then let it marinate.
Trust me, you cannot just approach a girl, randomly, start talking to her, then ask for her #. She doesnt feel like she knows you well enough to give you her # in that type of situation. (She would compare how well she knows her friends from outside school to how well she knows you.) Have a good convo with her, then end it, and let her wonder about you for a little bit. After you see her for like 5 times or so, and she enjoys your convo, then ask for her #. And chill out on the kino, stop forcing it on her, you dont ****in know her, let it happen naturally. Let her wonder if youre interested or not. When you flat out, ask for her # and/or put your hand around her, that shows that right away your blatantly interested in ****ing her right away, when you have all the time in the world to know eachother. Thats needy and afc. After shes interested in you and your convo, it wont matter that she has friends outside school.
avoid any girl thats with a guy or guys. Youre just blocking by trying to spit game there. girls in groups are cool, but the key is interesting compelling convo + pour on the game + let it marinate. If she tells you she has a man or something, since you didnt show any blatant interest, you can just retract and treat her like a friend. Ok i hope i helped you out with my (+ some of friends' experiences)
For those who are thinking "you're in college, how can you NOT meet girls?"- Its very intimidating when you are not used to picking up and the girls aren't as open.
Its like being at a car dealership, there are thousands of cars, but you can't drive ANY of them if you don't have the keys.
Its like being at a car dealership, there are thousands of cars, but you can't drive ANY of them if you don't have the keys.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
College is ridden with opportunities. So many horny chicks, it's not even fair!
Just open up your eyes. In the past week, I've scored four hot girls' numbers at the library. Banged two of them. Going out with another one of them. All within a week.
The gym could be good I guess. Just not my primary place of action because I'm usually working out in the freeweight area.
Cafeteria is a good place. A place that I'm trying to adapt too. And what about class? Get there a couple minutes early and score a good seat. You're handed the opener on a f*cking plate.
Good luck.
Just open up your eyes. In the past week, I've scored four hot girls' numbers at the library. Banged two of them. Going out with another one of them. All within a week.
The gym could be good I guess. Just not my primary place of action because I'm usually working out in the freeweight area.
Cafeteria is a good place. A place that I'm trying to adapt too. And what about class? Get there a couple minutes early and score a good seat. You're handed the opener on a f*cking plate.
Good luck.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt said:
Use to lie about my age. I tell every girl I'm 19 now. All the girls I've dated have been older than me. As long as you're confident, she'll look right past it.
Thanks for all the good advice! He's not the only one that benefits from this post. :rockon: I'm gonna wait until the last two weeks of this semester and try to see how many numbers I can get.
My 2 cents is don't go for the girls in your class during the semester.... that's retarded.
1. FOCUS ON SCHOOL
2. If you do get with a girl in class, she'll become annoying as all hell and you'll lose interest.
3. Unless you're good at that sort of thing (because it can be done), how are you going to keep a good reputation, hit on other girls, or concentrate under the icy stare of a ***** you just f*cked and dropped....
My 2 cents is don't go for the girls in your class during the semester.... that's retarded.
1. FOCUS ON SCHOOL
2. If you do get with a girl in class, she'll become annoying as all hell and you'll lose interest.
3. Unless you're good at that sort of thing (because it can be done), how are you going to keep a good reputation, hit on other girls, or concentrate under the icy stare of a ***** you just f*cked and dropped....
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
Why not go for them?Sexual said: