"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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In a Relationship With A Woman...

schttrj

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What do you expect me to write from here?

This is a kind of a post inspired by anger and enlightenment. Some people who have read my blog will know about it, perhaps.

You know what, I don't know why, You Should NEVER Go Into A Relationship With A Woman.

What does that mean? A relationship? It means you never give yourself up to a woman. That's what I found yesterday and over all this time. We talk about how to pick up women, but when it comes to relationship advice over the forum, most of the people will just be advising on the following notes: MOVE ON!

This actually shows how bad we are at keeping a woman. And you know it is universal. A woman NEVER commits. She is just going by her good conscience. Once she gets a little chance and finds out nobody is watching, she goes along with it. Just see how many girls actually cheat on their guys.

I guess this all boils down to our evolutionary biology. We are always looking for better mates for survival. But the question is how can you possibly be better than every other ****ING men out there. You cannot!

Remember, one thing that keeps a woman is your sexual chemistry. And don't mistake yourself that sexual tension and attraction is the biggest part of any sexual chemistry. RAPPORT is the thing!

When you two REALLY click, you and her being real and honest, knowing your mistakes and strengths, then you FALL IN LOVE. Don't forget she will get attracted and might even slip at times.

But the rapport that she shares with you will keep her in the relationship. And unfortunately, you CANNOT control rapport. It's either there or it is not. It is a matter of time. You can only work on the sexual tension thing. When it's in place, you just let go and see where it goes.

That's what I have understood. Any comment, guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Here´s what I think:

- I agree with some parts, but not entirely with states like "You Should NEVER Go Into A Relationship With A Woman" and "A woman NEVER commits". And I say this by my own experience. I had several relationships and in all cases, all women where higly commited and wanted to give a bigger step with me. However, I always ended up, because if I feel that I control the relationship and that she is "on my hand", I just begin to screw things, and start banging others. In fact, some of them were (and are) respectable and uprightly.

All of us suffered before because of a woman. Some of us because of more than one. However, I don´t think that ALL women are cheaters.

I agree that there is a biological evolutionary behaviour, on which females choose the best males. It may be even insconcient, but I don´t think that there is limited to all women. I mean, that all behave and act as "No, this one isn´t good enough. Let´s try that one instead. Seems to be better.".

I can understand that you may be pissed off with something, but I won´t reduce one or even several events to state that we should not trust women, or even saying that all of them are cheaters or *****es.



Take care, bro!
 

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There are alot of women who i say have the goldie locks and the three bears outlook on life.This ones to hot, this ones to cold,this ones just rite :crazy: These are the branch swingers that we talk about and it can be diffulcut to weed these women out but it can and must be done!!If you dont you will repetely get your heart broken and your ego bruised.The more women you date the better you will get at spotting the undesirables:up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Lord Sidious said:
Here´s what I think:

- I agree with some parts, but not entirely with states like "You Should NEVER Go Into A Relationship With A Woman" and "A woman NEVER commits". And I say this by my own experience. I had several relationships and in all cases, all women where higly commited and wanted to give a bigger step with me. However, I always ended up, because if I feel that I control the relationship and that she is "on my hand", I just begin to screw things, and start banging others. In fact, some of them were (and are) respectable and uprightly.

All of us suffered before because of a woman. Some of us because of more than one. However, I don´t think that ALL women are cheaters.

I agree that there is a biological evolutionary behaviour, on which females choose the best males. It may be even insconcient, but I don´t think that there is limited to all women. I mean, that all behave and act as "No, this one isn´t good enough. Let´s try that one instead. Seems to be better.".

I can understand that you may be pissed off with something, but I won´t reduce one or even several events to state that we should not trust women, or even saying that all of them are cheaters or *****es.



Take care, bro!
You might be right. I would really love to believe what you said. Unfortunately, even some of the honest and uprightly women that I met are secretly dreaming about something better, or are just being loyal due to societal bondings.

It seems you have had some good relationship and you still give us hope though.
 

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schttrj said:
You might be right. I would really love to believe what you said. Unfortunately, even some of the honest and uprightly women that I met are secretly dreaming about something better, or are just being loyal due to societal bondings.

It seems you have had some good relationship and you still give us hope though.
The cheater of my previous relationships was ME, not them. Like I said, if you show a woman you´re dominant and not a wuss (I´m not saying you were), and if you never give them the control of the relation, it´s far less probable for them to cheat or want other guys.

Hope you be well, my friend.

Take care.
 

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I'm in your relationships... stealing your womanz. :flowers:
 

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You're over thinking this.
I'd advise you to read my thread in DJ TIPS My relationship is awesome. Do you too, want an awesome relationship?

From my many years of being in relationships and watching all the successful ones, that thread is the result and the conclusion isn't what you're getting at.

It's also apparent that you believe a girl could find a better guy than you.
Let me tell you something, I cheated on my X and she found herself in the relationship of her dreams but I called her up recently and literally said, "I can get you back any time I want."

She agreed with me.
Now I ask you: Am I better than her current boyfriend or am I just some confident jerk who genuinely believes she loves me despite being in 'the relationship of her dreams'.

It's not that this girl is 'evolutionary programmed to be unfaithful', it's just that her current boyfriend doesn't act like me.
Screw your head on; this isn't the game for no reason.

Tell me why she'd even want to cheat on you.
When you're awesome.
 

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Lord Sidious said:
The cheater of my previous relationships was ME, not them. Like I said, if you show a woman you´re dominant and not a wuss (I´m not saying you were), and if you never give them the control of the relation, it´s far less probable for them to cheat or want other guys.

Hope you be well, my friend.

Take care.
You mean to say you need to be in control?? Well, that I am...no doubt in that. But sometimes, it seems they want to stray away...!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Accension said:
You're over thinking this.
I'd advise you to read my thread in DJ TIPS My relationship is awesome. Do you too, want an awesome relationship?

From my many years of being in relationships and watching all the successful ones, that thread is the result and the conclusion isn't what you're getting at.

It's also apparent that you believe a girl could find a better guy than you.
Let me tell you something, I cheated on my X and she found herself in the relationship of her dreams but I called her up recently and literally said, "I can get you back any time I want."

She agreed with me.
Now I ask you: Am I better than her current boyfriend or am I just some confident jerk who genuinely believes she loves me despite being in 'the relationship of her dreams'.

It's not that this girl is 'evolutionary programmed to be unfaithful', it's just that her current boyfriend doesn't act like me.
Screw your head on; this isn't the game for no reason.

Tell me why she'd even want to cheat on you.
When you're awesome.
First, I need you to understand that I love open discussion. So yes, I have a question for you. What do you think will keep her coming back to you? How are you better than her current boyfriend?.... I mean after all it is the dream boy that she have now...!
 

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schttrj said:
First, I need you to understand that I love open discussion. So yes, I have a question for you. What do you think will keep her coming back to you? How are you better than her current boyfriend?.... I mean after all it is the dream boy that she have now...!

Why not instead change your attitude.

Instead of wanting women to slot into your world view, why not simply enjoy them for what they bring?!


Instead of trying to force a women to like you, simply enjoy yourself with a women and when the relationship starts to show cracks either walk or work in it - the fact of the matter is, there are always other women.

This thinking stems from the idea of trying to keep a women, when in reality you should be allowing a women to be an extension/a compliment of yourself, rather then you morphing yourself to keep a women - Now there is a world of difference in being what most guys are guilty of and that's being a supplicating wuss and being a confident guy who knows he has options and can simply enjoy the women in his life for what she brings.

Women say the same things you do about men - the point is, rather than trying to keep her, you should be looking at improving yourself, working on who you are and developing a deep inner core, where by you dont 'need' a women, and they are simply extensions to your own happines and power - that way when a relationship breaks down, it's not that much of a big deal because, single or in a relationship - it's all good regardless.

Some men should spend years being single, to realize that single life can be a pleasure and it gives them power to walk away or to not invest there time worrying about relationship with women, when they go south.

They are extension to a mans life, not the goal.
 

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jonwon said:
Why not instead change your attitude.

Instead of wanting women to slot into your world view, why not simply enjoy them for what they bring?!


Instead of trying to force a women to like you, simply enjoy yourself with a women and when the relationship starts to show cracks either walk or work in it - the fact of the matter is, there are always other women.

This thinking stems from the idea of trying to keep a women, when in reality you should be allowing a women to be an extension/a compliment of yourself, rather then you morphing yourself to keep a women - Now there is a world of difference in being what most guys are guilty of and that's being a supplicating wuss and being a confident guy who knows he has options and can simply enjoy the women in his life for what she brings.

Women say the same things you do about men - the point is, rather than trying to keep her, you should be looking at improving yourself, working on who you are and developing a deep inner core, where by you dont 'need' a women, and they are simply extensions to your own happines and power - that way when a relationship breaks down, it's not that much of a big deal because, single or in a relationship - it's all good regardless.

Some men should spend years being single, to realize that single life can be a pleasure and it gives them power to walk away or to not invest there time worrying about relationship with women, when they go south.

They are extension to a mans life, not the goal.

This man is speaking the truth.
 
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