In a Relationship...Help with these feelings

[Jonblood]

I've been seeing this girl for over a month. She met my parents this weekend, we really like each other, and last night she asked if we were 'together' which I confirmed. I really do want to be in a LTR with her. Here's the problem:

I can't stop thinking about her! When I'm not with her and i think about her, I get a feeling similar to anxiety. I just can't wait to see her. I don't text her constantly even if I want to, I keep it to a minimum. Is it just because this is all new? It's not my first relationship and I've been with many girls, I'm not an AFC, virgin, or anything like that.

I love and hate this website. it has taught me so much, but turned me into a machine making me judge every little thing I do and want to do.

 

[jax871]

Sorry i'm confused, what are feelings????

 

[Tiguere]

how old are both of you?

if both are under 25..you still young so make mistakes now.. do whatever you want. live and learn.

 

[Rubirosa]

So you like her .....? Big deal.......Just keep cool and don't contact her too much, or you'll start to turn her off w/ your neediness

 

[f283000]

By reading your post I'm guessing you're young and this is probably your first relationship which is what it sounds like.

Do know that what you're feeling is perfectly normal. That's how a woman that we like makes us feel. It's what they were created for to make us feel good.

The only thing you need to worry about is not acting like a chump. For example try the following

1. Don't call her every damn day: Let her contact you or at least try to have some days where you don't talk to her. Give yourself some space

2. Don't stop hanging out with your friends: Just because you have a gf now doesn't mean you should drop your buddies. Hanging out with your friends for guy's night out and stuff is healthy because it reminds you that not everything in life is just being with this girl. It keeps you sanem.

A lot of guys drop their friends, and when their gf drops them they find that they lost their good friends too because they stop seeing them for so long. Friends felt neglected.

Protect your friends more than you protect your gf because girlfriends come and go and you will have plenty of them as time goes on, while good friends are not easy to find.

3. Don't involve her in every little aspect of your life: I don't like how you already took her to meet your parents after only a month and which you admitted you weren't even a couple yet. Don't involve her with your friends. Keep your friends and your gf separate. If you hang out with them then hang out with them don't bring her along.

4. Keep an aura of mystery around you: Don't be telling her every little thought and secret about your life. Not just to keep her attracted to you as girls like men that are mysterious but to not involve yourself too deply with her and keep her at a reasonable distance emotionally wise.

all the above 4 points will not only make you stay more attractive to her but keep you sane and not obsessed with her.