"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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In a pickle... (advice wanted)

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Walking Anomaly

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Hey people, hows life?

Anyway...I used to be kickin it with this girl....however, she still oogles over her previous boyfriend whom split up with her. So now ive been reduced to a friend. The thing is...i dont want her as a friend, and if all she wants from me is friendship, then I dont want to be her friend. If she doesnt recognize the goods (me) when it comes around and only gives a crap about her previous boyfriend in a romantic way... why should she be able to know me anymore... I dont know if my way of thinking in this situation is taking life too seriously, because once you do that you lose. But if Im not gonna get anywhere with her anymore, why should i stick around... I'm not looking to be a chump.

Basically my question is whether or not i should just eliminate her from my life altogether. To tell her that im not lookin for "girl friends," but a girlfriend.

Let me know of anything you guys think...of what i should do, of my attitude towards this situation...anything

Much appreciated:)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NYC Dude

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Why eliminate anyone as a friend? Though it may not be possible to get in bed with her it doesn't mean you should get rid of her completely. In case you haven't noticed, girls and friends with other girls, some of which are hot. How will you meet those hot girls if you eliminate the middle-man (or middle-girl, I should say)?
 
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there's no good reason to "eliminate" a friend...i always like to think like this: "if there's one (that you like or likes yor or w/e), then there's bound to be others like her"

in other words, stay friends and NEXT her...
 
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Have to agree. She may not be a potential gf, but she prolly has some hb friends who you could meet. Besides, a good friend is always a plus. Just let her know clearly that you are over her, and are seeing (re: fukking) others.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey man, yea it sucks - I have the same sort of problem as well. I think elimination might be going too seriously, it depends. Personally I still want her and she still is going out with me even though she and her ex have a connection.

For you, if your in it for some ***** and lust stuff and you think you can kick it back to that than go for it . Just never give her the impression your desperate to get with her. Besides if your 'just friends' it just gives you some more chances with her friends.

You have aim? My sn is englishdudekid
 
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