"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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in 3 years he spend approx 8k on his gf-do you believe it

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all 4 of us talking at work among us. we are all co workers and one of them said he spend like 8k in 3 years on his gf, this is an approx figure. i'm like waoh what are you buying her, diamond rings and talking her to eat out at 5 star places. but do you really believe this. that almost like spending 2500 a yr on his gf. he said it all adds up dinner, movies,.....etc 10 dollar here, and movie there, dinner....etc


how about you guys do you spend this amount or even more on your gf or how does it go. i mean you can spend this amount or even more, and she breaks up with you all your money is gone, and what happens if she don;t even give you sex hahah.
the thing is hes also a student, and has no car. he works but i'm not totally sure how many hours. he said that the reason he can;t get a car, he spend it eitehr on clothes, his gf, and computers
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yeah, he's right, the little costs add up over time. Like let's say you spend $40 a week (not a lot of money, right?): 40*4=160*12=1920. So there you go, he's not spending a insane amount of money on her. But I guess it seems like a lot.
 

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He is lucky.. that is pretty damn low.. in atlanta many men spend more than that on random strippers call girls hos and failed dates... A mans life is expensive when it comes to the dating games cause his sex organs are not worth as much as female sex organs so he has to suppliment the deal with cash.....lol sad times
 

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Captain said:
He's spending too much on her if he can't afford a car because of it.
well, either that or because he's a student. Not all students can afford cars, especially if they don't live with their parents, have to pay their own tuition, and don't have their parents buy a car for them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sex and women are not worth compromising your finances, boys. Since I have become single I have completely thrown myself into my businesses and aside from having a lot more money and personal satisfaction, women are hunting me down right now.
 

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Kal0051 said:
well, either that or because he's a student. Not all students can afford cars, especially if they don't live with their parents, have to pay their own tuition, and don't have their parents buy a car for them.
True, but to spend $8000 on a girl in college is way over the top.
 
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**** does this girl have expensive tastes or what? Do they only eat in 4-star restaurants? Is he buying her tons of jewelry and clothes? And where the hell is he getting all that money?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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$50 a week on average. Could be skewed by a few big gifts here and there.



Pretty normal for anyone that doesn't follow a budget and eats out regularly (most college students).
 

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my ex spent 3k+ on me in less than 1 year. Depends how much time you guys spend together.
 

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i spent about 300 dollars dating some girl for about 6 weeks. it was fun, but i didn't want a girlfriend and she wanted a boyfriend so i bailed.
 

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I'm not loaded by any means, just to get that cleared up. However, I spend on average about $100 a week on my girl. It is noted that she spends approximately that same amount on me. I guess I should say that we spend that money on "us". Movies, dinners, drinks, bar tabs, food, misc stuff, concerts, shows, etc. Some weeks we spend well over that.

8K in three years? I would spend more than that just going out for drinks, not to mention birthday, christmas, anniversary presents and vacations and long weeekends.

Man, thinking about it, I would be a lot better off with out a girl, huh? hahaha

ohh well, it's worth it. spend time with anyone and you are going to spend money. Gas and food at the very very least.

If you can spend it and don't mind, go ahead. If money is tight right now, let your girl(s) know. If they don't understand then they surely won't understand "no honey, you can't buy those expensive earings, we have to pay our mortgage". hahaha, good luck.
 

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I spent $25k on expenses between one of my ex's and I in 2 years (travel, food, vehicle, sex toys, etc). She payed rent and other miscelanous expenses that totalled approximately $10k during that time. I made 3X as much as her so it came down more to a percentage.

In my most recent relationship I spent about $5k in a year on the 2 of us. I didn't buy her expensive gifts yada yada it was more for things we did together. She lent me a $1k at one point and did pay for things when I was betwen jobs so it was all good.

Money comes and money goes. Its important to make sure you don't cross into the realm of you paying for everything while all she contributes to the relationshit is sex, for example. Maintaining a percentage for the financials in these kind of relationships works for many. For example if you are married and have a joint account and you make 100k and she makes 50k then you put in 20% (20k) and she puts in 20% (10k) per year. Just an example.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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the only time that spending money on a girl should be a concern is if she's not paying her fair share (may not be equal to what you spend, it depends on your individual situation). If your spending thousands of dollars a year on spending time with her and she hasn't spent a cent, that's when there's a problem. But that's just my opinion.
 

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darkstarrr said:
Money comes and money goes. Its important to make sure you don't cross into the realm of you paying for everything while all she contributes to the relationshit is sex, for example. Maintaining a percentage for the financials in these kind of relationships works for many. For example if you are married and have a joint account and you make 100k and she makes 50k then you put in 20% (20k) and she puts in 20% (10k) per year. Just an example.
Exactly. I make more money than my girl so I spend more money on us. She contributes enough financially to the relationship that I am comfortable spending whatever on her. She is by far the best girl I've had at keeping up with the $ aspect of a relationship.

It's all subjective. Some guys feel threatened if their girl spends as much money on them as he does. Some guys don't mind. Some guys try to get their girl to spend all her money on them. What ever works for you.
 
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