"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Improving your personality

harkkam08

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There are lots of guides on picking up women and what not but how does one actually improve your personality. For example my friend i called today said "I was so immensely happy for him, he's the first out of all of us to have a career."
or "When it snows its just dead silence and you can't go anywhere, trapped and you have to bear it like a slow burn"

The point here is that if I had to make the same points the words I would use to express them would go more like
"hey that's cool he's got a job" and "I hate when it snows I cant go anywhere"

When I was walking in college a friend of mine who was walking with a girl said "Hey there's a guy I know" in a ****y voice. I said "whats up"

How can I just expand my personality. I think that when you go out in the field and ask suppose " Who do you think lies more, men or women?" I had a friend who approached and got them talking with the mentioned opener and then said "I think that every woman has a little bit of lesbian in her" All the girls started laughing and nodding.

I wanted to be that guy who said that "ever girl has a bit of lesbian in her" How can I be that guy?

Mystery and Rsd and Hypnotic cant teach me to be that guy who can say things that are witty and funny and not scripted.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Dannyrt34

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I gotta tell ya, from what it sounds like. You are holding back parts of your personality that you would like to show through. I had this problem when I just started.

There was always a certain way I wanted to act around people, but never did, fearing I'd come off as a goof. There were always certain things I wanted to say, but also held back.

The first step in doing this is to really OPEN UP. You need to really let your true self shine through, with no fear, and confidence! Out of all my experience, I learned that once your confident with you are, you'll naturally be more funny, fun to be around, and have much better connections with people. Now I know I'm a goof around people, but I don't care, I love it and I have fun!

This is a mind game, but you have to be able to let yourself stop thinking about things too much and just start being yourself.
 

daygameguy

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Most of your personality is shaped with either your successes or your company. Try to spend more time with quality people. And don't be afraid to sense your true feelings on the issue before you speak on it.
 

Snow Plowman

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Start changing/adding thought patterns that express those behavior patterns...

As I always say what "THOUGHT" caused you to "Behave" in the way you did?

Why are you behaving in a C&F way? Why are you kinoing the way you do? Why do you call women the way you do? (I hope it's not just cause some PU site said to do that)

When you have the thought you start living in the headspace, your reality is a collection of frames that make up your world. (Viewpoint of the world) It is totally subjective and gets straightened as you put yourself in positions where you can possibly give up your frames.

I've personally changed a TON of my thought patterns and I've now actually become the guy that I had written for myself many months ago. It' freaking, because I even live the lifestyle to a certain degree.

This is when all this PU stuff became WORTH IT...I'm the same attractive guy everywhere I go...
 
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