Improving Social Life?

[Guybrush]

Hey people,

It's been a while since I last posted, but I have been preparing to this qualifier's exam lately.

The question I'll ask is not directly about women, but I believe it's a key element in success with women.

I have NEXTed a bunch of women in the last 3-4 months, my male buddies are all lab geeks ( in fact I am one, too!) therefore lately life was pretty boring in terms of social activities.

I need to make some new friends, to hang out, to get another life going besides my job, which is graduate study by the way.

I am almost starting from scratch, so any ideas and directions would help! How do you start to build your social life from scratch when you need that?

That's an important skill because it gives you the power of being able to risk everything and walk away...

Ideaaaaas!

 

[COD]

1) RESEARCH YOUR A SS OFF........posts, books, movies, shows, wingman, people watch, youtube,etc Knowledge is the foundation of inner game

2) Practice small talk skills with hired guns at malls

3) hit the net.........great place to practice email enticements, on the fly IM's, getting digits, virtual flirting, etc

4) TEST STUFF OUT........at speed dating events.........great place to see how well you are doing as repetition requires about 14-21 times to form a new habit.

5) VISIT A BAR............THEN A CLUB.........DO WARM APPROACHES

6) day game.........approach at non pickup atmosheres.

7) START WITH LINES/ROUTINES til you get comfortable

8) WRITE STUFF DOWN THAT WORKED OR FAILED

9) phone game-a lot of people forget the phone is a tool.........use it incorrectly and you blow the date

10) GO ON SOME DATES-tease, forget generic compliments, kino, challenge, escalate.........dont sleep over.

 

[everywomanshero]

This raises the question of why don't you already have a social life? Simply going out more and being more active will definitely result in more opportunities with ladies and such, but my first thought is what has prevented you from having a social life up until now? Agorophobia, workaholism, social anxiety, a lack of motivation? I think being honest about the initial cause and correcting it will do more good than simply trying to put on a Mr. Social suit on a stay at home body if there is some underlying issue.

Assuming any serious underlying issues do not exist or are in the process of being dealt with, there are a number of ways to become more active. One way is simply to find women on dating sites and tell them you want to go out with them. Some of these chicks will have people hanging at their houses regularly so now you'll have a house to hang at and wait for new arrivals.You can actually just meet them and interact with their friends and such. You can also just show up at bars and find people to strike up a conversation with. Sometimes this will lead to future invites to parties, bars, houses, what have you. It's really easy, just don't spend too much time overthinking this. There are a lot of people who want to sell you things (ie PUAs, hypnotics, etc) that only increase the amount of time one spends picking his nose rather than actually doing something simple.